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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 652657" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>WearyMom, there is no betrayal here, this is life, the ups and downs and sideways trajectory of living with a troubled child. I think you did what most of us would do if we saw our child on the side of the road, sick. You made a choice. That's it. Let go of any thoughts of betrayal, there's no room here for those, you have enough on your plate just dealing with what is in front of you. No one here is going to judge you, we've all been on our own roller coaster ride and it never just goes in one direction, it's always all over the map.</p><p></p><p>I hope your daughter really did have an epiphany, it is possible. A month of homelessness and couch surfing may have done it for her. However, if she didn't, you have your 30 days of fast track learning under your belt, you know your boundaries and you have the resolve to do what ever it is you have to do. Having the address of the shelter is a good plan.</p><p></p><p>I think you've done a very good job of it.</p><p></p><p>My daughter came and stayed with us a couple of times over the last few years. Each time was different, each time she got better at MY rules and each time things improved for us, I got better at boundaries, she got better at respecting them. In my case, my daughter has remained out there in her own lifestyle choice, however, she doesn't ask me for much, if anything, keeps me out of any drama and is respectful and considerate of me. For me, that may be as good as it gets. For you, your daughter is very young and has the possibility of pulling her life together. In any case YOU have learned boundaries and how to demand respect so whatever happens, you will deal with it with the strength and the support you've gained.</p><p></p><p>Remember to continue getting support, taking care of yourself, doing kind things for yourself and making sure you get YOUR needs met. Over time I developed a strong support system for myself which keeps me healthy and strong and peaceful, acupuncture, massage, reflexology, meditation, keeping myself in very peaceful environments, having fun, laughing, taking small trips out of town to enjoy nature.........balance the bumpy ride with your daughter with a very calm, peaceful experience in the rest of your life. It's easy to get out of balance with our kids........make sure you keep that balance in all ways.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 652657, member: 13542"] WearyMom, there is no betrayal here, this is life, the ups and downs and sideways trajectory of living with a troubled child. I think you did what most of us would do if we saw our child on the side of the road, sick. You made a choice. That's it. Let go of any thoughts of betrayal, there's no room here for those, you have enough on your plate just dealing with what is in front of you. No one here is going to judge you, we've all been on our own roller coaster ride and it never just goes in one direction, it's always all over the map. I hope your daughter really did have an epiphany, it is possible. A month of homelessness and couch surfing may have done it for her. However, if she didn't, you have your 30 days of fast track learning under your belt, you know your boundaries and you have the resolve to do what ever it is you have to do. Having the address of the shelter is a good plan. I think you've done a very good job of it. My daughter came and stayed with us a couple of times over the last few years. Each time was different, each time she got better at MY rules and each time things improved for us, I got better at boundaries, she got better at respecting them. In my case, my daughter has remained out there in her own lifestyle choice, however, she doesn't ask me for much, if anything, keeps me out of any drama and is respectful and considerate of me. For me, that may be as good as it gets. For you, your daughter is very young and has the possibility of pulling her life together. In any case YOU have learned boundaries and how to demand respect so whatever happens, you will deal with it with the strength and the support you've gained. Remember to continue getting support, taking care of yourself, doing kind things for yourself and making sure you get YOUR needs met. Over time I developed a strong support system for myself which keeps me healthy and strong and peaceful, acupuncture, massage, reflexology, meditation, keeping myself in very peaceful environments, having fun, laughing, taking small trips out of town to enjoy nature.........balance the bumpy ride with your daughter with a very calm, peaceful experience in the rest of your life. It's easy to get out of balance with our kids........make sure you keep that balance in all ways. [/QUOTE]
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