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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 671003" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hey Alb. So glad to hear from you.</p><p></p><p>Ummmm. Don't be so hard on yourself. That is what I am thinking, reading what you wrote. </p><p></p><p>Alb, we do the best we can, and this stuff is so very hard----to the core of our being hard----that I think we have to grab on and cling hard to a new belief and a new plan and we have to believe it with everything we have, or we just can't do it.</p><p></p><p>Anything you may have said in a strident moment...we have all had our strident moments. I think grace and mercy here need to be part of our everyday equation. </p><p></p><p>This stuff is hard, folks. It is so freakin' hard.</p><p></p><p>I can imagine you and your husband agonized over your decision to give him another chance. I see not one thing wrong in that. You and he are the ONLY people who have lived your life with him and you are the only people who can decide, truly, what is next.</p><p></p><p>We here on this board cannot know the full story. There is no way to do it with this single way of communication---writing. We would have to know your full story, his full story and be there, so to speak, to have a greater voice.</p><p></p><p>We can only share what we have come to know and believe, and it is our truth. We must take what we like and leave the rest. That is a sacred Al-Anon statement and belief and understanding. If we hear something that doesn't ring true for us, well okay, but that doesn't mean it's not true for at least one person. </p><p></p><p>So...Alb...I'm thankful that you and your husband and Difficult Child are going forward, even if it's not perfect and messy and bad at times.</p><p></p><p>Who knows what the possible outcome will be? I believe that each of us is always so happy for the others when something positive happens, and we think, maybe that can happen for our situation. </p><p></p><p>Honesty, humility and patience are what we all need to be sure to share with each other every day. Grace and mercy. </p><p></p><p>I'm just so glad to hear from you! Please keep us posted on the good, the bad and the ugly of how things are going. Your experience can help others.</p><p></p><p>Love to you, Alb!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 671003, member: 17542"] Hey Alb. So glad to hear from you. Ummmm. Don't be so hard on yourself. That is what I am thinking, reading what you wrote. Alb, we do the best we can, and this stuff is so very hard----to the core of our being hard----that I think we have to grab on and cling hard to a new belief and a new plan and we have to believe it with everything we have, or we just can't do it. Anything you may have said in a strident moment...we have all had our strident moments. I think grace and mercy here need to be part of our everyday equation. This stuff is hard, folks. It is so freakin' hard. I can imagine you and your husband agonized over your decision to give him another chance. I see not one thing wrong in that. You and he are the ONLY people who have lived your life with him and you are the only people who can decide, truly, what is next. We here on this board cannot know the full story. There is no way to do it with this single way of communication---writing. We would have to know your full story, his full story and be there, so to speak, to have a greater voice. We can only share what we have come to know and believe, and it is our truth. We must take what we like and leave the rest. That is a sacred Al-Anon statement and belief and understanding. If we hear something that doesn't ring true for us, well okay, but that doesn't mean it's not true for at least one person. So...Alb...I'm thankful that you and your husband and Difficult Child are going forward, even if it's not perfect and messy and bad at times. Who knows what the possible outcome will be? I believe that each of us is always so happy for the others when something positive happens, and we think, maybe that can happen for our situation. Honesty, humility and patience are what we all need to be sure to share with each other every day. Grace and mercy. I'm just so glad to hear from you! Please keep us posted on the good, the bad and the ugly of how things are going. Your experience can help others. Love to you, Alb! [/QUOTE]
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