An extraordinary text message.

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by DazedandConfused, Dec 9, 2009.

  1. DazedandConfused

    DazedandConfused Active Member

    Daughter is nearly done with her first term in college. Granted, it's community college, but nonetheless, she made it through with commendable grades. She's going to be in CC for about 3 1/2 years due to so many years of failing during her middle and high school years left her needing a lot of remedial work. Plus, severe education budget cuts in California has less classes for more students.

    Today was yet another high drama day for her. So much that I didn't come home for lunch to avoid interacting with her. It was time to sign up for her next term classes and she couldn't log on the school's website and was freaked about not getting the classes she wants and having to wait another term to get them. I tried to offer advice which she re soundly rejected. I yelled and she yelled.

    I left for work and texted an apology for my yelling. She would text me updates as the day progressed. Finally she got through and amazingly got all the classes she wanted at the times she wanted. Whew!

    So, the day goes on as usual other than multiple behavior issues with students today. I was wore out when I got home!

    Okay..start dinner..Daughter goes to school to log in lab hours.

    I get a text saying how glad she was to have already signed up for her classes already because a ton of people were lined up at the school to pick at the leftovers.

    Then a few minutes later I get this:

    "My goal isn't just for myself to do good in life, but to show you that you raised a child that can go somewhere and will reach their goals. I love you."

    I nearly dropped the spoon I was using to stir the spaghetti sauce.

    I literally caught my breath. I was frozen in place with shock. I think about the day I joined this board, it was Thanksgiving Day 2003 after she threatened to stab me for daring to ask her to practice her clarinet (she was whining she was bored) to keep her occupied. The years of medications, therapy, testing, specialists, appointments, and trudging down to the school to deal with problems.

    To think it might be okay after all.......


    P.S. Son made honor roll! He's so thrilled! No nagging or interfering from me, he did it on his own. He got his certificate today. I missed it, but my Mom went to the assembly.

    Of course, I know I still have more tough days to endure with my difficult children, but I want to enjoy the warm sun of joy on this very cold day.

    It sure ended well...:D
  2. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    WOW! That IS a great text message. Be SURE you copy it into your calendar and/or a scrapbook or journal.

    What a great way to really see the change, getting that text and thinking about when you started here.
  3. smallworld

    smallworld Moderator

    WOW! I'm thrilled for you.
  4. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

  5. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Completely and totally awesome!!!!!
  6. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!


    I hope you save that text and have it framed! What a wonderful day! :bigsmile:
  7. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wow...did she go have Chinese for lunch and get a fortune cookie? J/K!
  8. DazedandConfused

    DazedandConfused Active Member


    Janet, I have to be honest, it did strike me that maybe someone else (like an angel maybe??) had gotten a hold of her phone and sent me that message.

    I cling to the hope that perhaps I'm seeing a tiny sprout of maturity...just maybe.....please???
  9. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    Ah. Keep that one for the memory books. Congrats and good job.
  10. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Wow! Way To Go!!!! Congratulations!
    There is a light at the end of the tunnel ...
  11. idohope

    idohope Member

    Congratulations! It is what we hope for. Enjoy the moment and look back on it often.
  12. ChocolateBFF

    ChocolateBFF Guest

    I am so envious. I can't imagine my daughter at 18. I hope I live long enough.

    Congratulations. Brings tears to my eyes. How smart she is!
  13. lizanne2

    lizanne2 New Member

    Yeah you! Yeah her!

    And thank you for sharing your joy and bringing me hope!
  14. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    LOL Dazed...maybe she is going to be either the next Confucius or a fortune cookie writer!
  15. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Dazed, that's wonderful. I too think you should keep the text message for posterity.