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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 685502" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>When talking about addiction and connection, I honestly don't think parents or childhood family is what they are talking about. Of course, for some people things go wrong in their childhood family, but for many others, they lost that connection to life along the way. </p><p></p><p>We shouldn't think we are only, or main or even the most significant 'environmental factor' in our kids life. Not when they are young, certainly not when they grow up. I have a kid who has PTSD, which is his biggest issue. I didn't cause it and neither did his dad. We were not perfect parents but good enough to raise other, very well adjusted kid. It was caused by other environmental factors out of our control. PTSD also caused his addiction issues that are currently under control and he is more battling with other PTSD caused issues. But really, most of the time parents can't really take credit for their well adjusted kids nor blame for their struggling offspring. We do not have that kind of control over them and their life.</p><p></p><p>And let's face it; connection to childhood family is not enough for any adult or even teen. They need more. Friends, work/school, romantic relationship, goals and dreams, passions of their own. None of which parents can provide. Do not think that anyone would think that problem is, that your kid is not connected to you, problem may be, that they are not engaged with life as the whole, and at most, you and your relationship to them is just a small part of that whole.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 685502, member: 14557"] When talking about addiction and connection, I honestly don't think parents or childhood family is what they are talking about. Of course, for some people things go wrong in their childhood family, but for many others, they lost that connection to life along the way. We shouldn't think we are only, or main or even the most significant 'environmental factor' in our kids life. Not when they are young, certainly not when they grow up. I have a kid who has PTSD, which is his biggest issue. I didn't cause it and neither did his dad. We were not perfect parents but good enough to raise other, very well adjusted kid. It was caused by other environmental factors out of our control. PTSD also caused his addiction issues that are currently under control and he is more battling with other PTSD caused issues. But really, most of the time parents can't really take credit for their well adjusted kids nor blame for their struggling offspring. We do not have that kind of control over them and their life. And let's face it; connection to childhood family is not enough for any adult or even teen. They need more. Friends, work/school, romantic relationship, goals and dreams, passions of their own. None of which parents can provide. Do not think that anyone would think that problem is, that your kid is not connected to you, problem may be, that they are not engaged with life as the whole, and at most, you and your relationship to them is just a small part of that whole. [/QUOTE]
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