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difficult child has been invited to a birthday party today. This is not his first friend party, he has done this before. Yet, he is overcome with anxiety. Something that seems so simple and so much a part of childhood has been a struggle these last few days and I feel bad for him. difficult child wants to go, but is so worried about things that he can't fight down the anxiety to go.
Although I'm not best friends with the little boy's mom, she and I have spoken several times. Her little boy has his own difficult child issues and she is a wonderful mom who gets it. The party is going to be at their house for two hours. She said that they didn't invite the whole class but kept the numbers small.
I've spent two days breaking things down into little pieces. I've called the boy's mom to see if she could give me a small rundown so I could prepare difficult child for the party. Nothing has helped. It has been meltdown after meltdown.
I told him to make a decision, go or don't go. Neither one is the end of the world but that I wasn't going to be baited into making the decision for him. I don't care if he goes or not. He wants me to say, "you can't go because of your behavior". Then it becomes my fault and he can be angry with me and not himself.
His plan was for me to go with him to the party and sit with him. To be honest with you, I'm uncomfortable with this solution. He's almost seven, there won't be any other moms at the party. I'm fearful that me being there will cause him more grief with his peers. Am I being unreasonable?
difficult child has been invited to a birthday party today. This is not his first friend party, he has done this before. Yet, he is overcome with anxiety. Something that seems so simple and so much a part of childhood has been a struggle these last few days and I feel bad for him. difficult child wants to go, but is so worried about things that he can't fight down the anxiety to go.
Although I'm not best friends with the little boy's mom, she and I have spoken several times. Her little boy has his own difficult child issues and she is a wonderful mom who gets it. The party is going to be at their house for two hours. She said that they didn't invite the whole class but kept the numbers small.
I've spent two days breaking things down into little pieces. I've called the boy's mom to see if she could give me a small rundown so I could prepare difficult child for the party. Nothing has helped. It has been meltdown after meltdown.
I told him to make a decision, go or don't go. Neither one is the end of the world but that I wasn't going to be baited into making the decision for him. I don't care if he goes or not. He wants me to say, "you can't go because of your behavior". Then it becomes my fault and he can be angry with me and not himself.
His plan was for me to go with him to the party and sit with him. To be honest with you, I'm uncomfortable with this solution. He's almost seven, there won't be any other moms at the party. I'm fearful that me being there will cause him more grief with his peers. Am I being unreasonable?