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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 625948" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Blackgnat, it's good to "see" you. Everyone has given you really good advice. </p><p></p><p>Here's my 2 cents.........Life is very short. You and me and many if not most of us here have given over years if not decades to our adult troubled kids. <em>Go to Australia. Be selfish. </em>"Motherly" is what we are when our kids are toddlers and preteens, it is not who we are now. Now we are people, we are women, we are free agents who can do exactly what we want to do. Do what YOU want to do. Be a bit of a gypsy for a little while and let the wind blow through your hair, throw away the to do lists and take your light heart and go play in the universe.</p><p></p><p>Ask yourself 'what do I<em> truly</em> want?' What am I willing to do without resentment? If that is nothing, then don't do anything. You don't owe <em>anybody</em> anything. Our job is to guide our kids to adulthood, what they do after that is up to them. I would limit or stop the care packages. And, as others have mentioned, limit the calls too. Get all of those loop holes filled back up as you had done before.</p><p></p><p>Parenting as we knew it is now over, so how would you like to spend your retirement? You mentioned you still have to work, perhaps you might investigate if that can be done in Australia. Open your vision a bit and let yourself dream of how your life might be now that you are free................go live the life you've imagined..........go out there and have some serious FUN!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 625948, member: 13542"] Blackgnat, it's good to "see" you. Everyone has given you really good advice. Here's my 2 cents.........Life is very short. You and me and many if not most of us here have given over years if not decades to our adult troubled kids. [I]Go to Australia. Be selfish. [/I]"Motherly" is what we are when our kids are toddlers and preteens, it is not who we are now. Now we are people, we are women, we are free agents who can do exactly what we want to do. Do what YOU want to do. Be a bit of a gypsy for a little while and let the wind blow through your hair, throw away the to do lists and take your light heart and go play in the universe. Ask yourself 'what do I[I] truly[/I] want?' What am I willing to do without resentment? If that is nothing, then don't do anything. You don't owe [I]anybody[/I] anything. Our job is to guide our kids to adulthood, what they do after that is up to them. I would limit or stop the care packages. And, as others have mentioned, limit the calls too. Get all of those loop holes filled back up as you had done before. Parenting as we knew it is now over, so how would you like to spend your retirement? You mentioned you still have to work, perhaps you might investigate if that can be done in Australia. Open your vision a bit and let yourself dream of how your life might be now that you are free................go live the life you've imagined..........go out there and have some serious FUN! [/QUOTE]
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