*knocks on wood* That done.......lol.........she is doing wonderfully. I truly believe in that whole "everything happens for a reason" thing, seen it play itself out too many times to doubt it, even if it takes years to come full circle. Since the bff's husband disaster, she and her boyfriend have been working hard on keeping their relationship on an adult level, talking things through ect. It has made a world of difference, and on both sides. See a lot more maturity there for both of them and of course Aubrey is reaping the rewards. Never seen her happier. Really horrible way for a wake up call........but evidently just what they needed. Who knows, maybe anything less wouldn't have gotten their attention. Change number 2.....Nichole has gone off hormonal birth control. Now I know what you're thinking. lol While she does want another child.....she no longer feels the Rush to do so. (I think that stemmed from trying to hold on to boyfriend, insecurity ect) Both agree that if it happens it happens. Nichole told boyfriend if he doesn't want a child there are condoms and he can use them. No more messing with her hormones. This is going to sound odd but thrills me to death. The females in our family do NOT deal with hormonal birth control well. It tends to make us moody as h*ll at best.....and for the vast majority of us can even make us violent and homicidal. I could only take them for a short time.......and seriously had to stop as my reaction is to the extreme, as was my mother's. On edge 24/7 doesn't begin to describe it....on edge and if someone breathed my way I wanted to murder them literally does a better job.......only it was even more intense than that. Nichole has always had mood issues, before teen years it could be solved with foods like you would for low blood sugar. Once she started BC I noticed a dramatic shift in intensity.....not to mention what happened during the pregnancy with Aubrey. The depo shot.......omg......although she worked hard at controling her behavior and moods it was a major struggle. On those occasions she'd not take BC or let the shot lapse........her moods stabilized and she was a dramatically different person. I've been trying to get her to use alternate forms of BC since not long after Aubrey was born for this reason. She's been off hormonal BC for a while. She is stable. She is fun to be around. No mood shifts....NONE. The girl is happy. boyfriend is happy. Aubrey is thrilled. Not saying she is no longer a difficult child by a long shot because well that would be silly. But it is obvious the BC was making things much much worse. When I had my reaction years ago the doctor explain there is a very small amt of the population that can't take BC for this reason. The hormones in the pill/shot are enough to throw their own hormones out of whack to the point of making the worse cases psychotic. (that would be me lol) They don't know why it happens with these women, just that it does. Nichole has been telling me that she no longer feels like someone is running their fingernails constantly down a chalkboard. That things.......anything big or small......no longer irritate her to the point of utter fury.....she's calm for the first time in a very very long time. I believe her because I see it for myself. boyfriend graduated college and has gotten a good job in Dayton, they're moving to a nearby suburb in a good area the 1st of Oct. I can't believe I'm not worried about her moving away. The kids are happy together, are enjoying each other and Aubrey.......and omg I'm enjoying being around her boyfriend. Hahahaha. Really I am. I am sooooooooo riding this wave.