Hi there. Well difficult child has been to "intensive outpatient therapy" about 2 1/2 weeks now. Now taking Suboxone, which seems to be helping alot. This medication controls your need for "opiates" but just found out today things like cocaine are not opiates, so hope he's not doing that. Facility will be drug testing him soon. Still smoking, weed and cigs, but Dr says that too will be addressed, doesn't want to take all away from him at once, or he'll 'bolt' - which I agree to. Social workers told me today he is not "ready" for group therapy yet. Says he kind of took over therapy last week and the others didn't like it - and voiced their opinions. difficult child still looks at drugs as a "gift from above" and these others, mostly much older, are past that and really trying to clean up their lives. The good news is that this facility is great and will work with him until he's ready for group, taking him 2-3 times a week one-on-one for sessions. Says he needs some "people skills" - I coula told 'em that! difficult child was actually doing pretty well until yesterday when husband smelled weed coming from his window while out in the yard - evidently left over from the night before when he was supposed to have no one over and had 3 stowaways sleep over (we had told him no, because it was Easter, and the EB was coming for his lil' 7-yo sister.) So, husband threw them all out. One of the "friends" happens to be going through same as difficult child, actually, ironically, goes to the same rehab facility. Well, this "friend" a female, but not girlfriend, sounds like she's got even more mega problems than difficult child, stemming from her childhood. She has tatoos all over and crazy dyed hair, besides the piercings (not anything I want my 7 yo daughter to 'look up to.') We had let this friend, and her boyfriend, stay over for 2 nights, because they have no where to go. Evidently boyfriend's family won't let her stay there (wonder why?), nor will difficult child's girlfriend let her stay at her house (wonder why?), but difficult child expects us to let her and the boyfriend stay here! I let them come over, but will draw the line on them sleeping here again - I have enough to take care of with difficult child and keeping my family together. Don't need any more problems, but I really feel guilty for not letting them stay. I don't want difficult child to leave because I won't let them stay, but if he does I just have to realize I'm doing the right thing for the rest of my family. I know you probably all agree, but this is so hard. I want difficult child to continue rehab, but can't let him "bribe" me by talking me into doing things I don't feel comfortable with. Any suggestions???