husband and I continue to go to couples therapy. We are learning to be a couple again, I guess. It's not easy. If your husband wasn't terribly supportive of you when you had kids at home, he probably won't be terribly supportive of you when you don't, either. Don't get me wrong, he's not mean or abusive. He's just thoughtless and lazy. It's terribly hard to keep the momentum forward moving when you have reached the last straw and he's just now figuring out that I really mean it when I say I've had it. He's still taking his anti-depressants, and they seem to be helping him to an extent. But he's supposed to be on hormones for severely low testosterone and he just won't take it with any regularity. Then he can't figure out why he doesn't have any energy. Or sex drive. Or drive of any kind. He's so easily distracted when it comes time to get anything helpful around the house or yard done. It's just a never-ending battle of nagging from me, pouting from him, yada yada yada. I have to admit, it's hard to get excited about trying to fix this when he isn't, either. L called Friday to tell me that she had been fired. I kind of knew that was coming. She's so self-assured but has so little job experience to back it up. She told me a couple of weeks ago that she wasn't getting along well with another girl there at the office who had more time in with the company than she had. I met someone last night who is looking for someone in a bank job to call in on questionable electronic funds transfers. The lady works in collections. L would be good at collections. She's kind of a snot. I'm not worried about L, because I know that one way or another she'll figure it out. Or daddy will bail her out. Hopefully she'll figure it out. What can I say? She's not married to someone she doesn't love, she's not pregnant. It's not all bad. So, I guess I have the ultimate answer to "how do you detach?" "Lower your expectations."