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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 687125" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi karen. Hang in there, you are stronger than you think.</p><p></p><p>This is so hard-the texts! I could actually feel my heart ramp up when son's area code would show up on my phone. Me-the one with the calm in the midst of chaos, now on the drama coaster. Turn your ticket in, get off. If he wants to live like this... he may. You gave him so much notice of the living situation, much more than just throwing him out during spring break. Just like the summons, he has ignored you. </p><p></p><p></p><p>So familiar it hurts....When we realized through Al-anon and this site that we didn't have to keep trying and that it was actually detrimental to us all, we opened our eyes wide. Our home was not even our safe place due to our son's behavior and we did not have younger children to think about. We didn't want our other children, grandchildren or friends to be exposed to our mess. We hid plenty of it from them. Should anyone have that kind of power over you?</p><p> On the final "you can't live here anymore day", one of our sons, also a nurse like me, showed up during confrontation. He and I stood together (you know-the 2 nurses side by side in face of angry doctor thing ) He realized at that time how bad it had been for us these yrs. He shared with the other kids-not to diss his brother (they love him as much as we do) but to have them pray and support our decision. I cry as I write this-we've all tried so hard. Much harder than they have. Do you know the ladder analogy? 2 ladders side by side, our son is climbing up one and we are on the rung behind them. Every time they fall, we fall too, hitting first and they land on us. And we go again. And again. Finally, we realize we're the only one's who are trying to hang on--so we get off and climb our own ladder, letting them climb theirs. He's young, there's much hope. Protect your "mother's heart" today. You can do this. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 687125, member: 20054"] Hi karen. Hang in there, you are stronger than you think. This is so hard-the texts! I could actually feel my heart ramp up when son's area code would show up on my phone. Me-the one with the calm in the midst of chaos, now on the drama coaster. Turn your ticket in, get off. If he wants to live like this... he may. You gave him so much notice of the living situation, much more than just throwing him out during spring break. Just like the summons, he has ignored you. So familiar it hurts....When we realized through Al-anon and this site that we didn't have to keep trying and that it was actually detrimental to us all, we opened our eyes wide. Our home was not even our safe place due to our son's behavior and we did not have younger children to think about. We didn't want our other children, grandchildren or friends to be exposed to our mess. We hid plenty of it from them. Should anyone have that kind of power over you? On the final "you can't live here anymore day", one of our sons, also a nurse like me, showed up during confrontation. He and I stood together (you know-the 2 nurses side by side in face of angry doctor thing ) He realized at that time how bad it had been for us these yrs. He shared with the other kids-not to diss his brother (they love him as much as we do) but to have them pray and support our decision. I cry as I write this-we've all tried so hard. Much harder than they have. Do you know the ladder analogy? 2 ladders side by side, our son is climbing up one and we are on the rung behind them. Every time they fall, we fall too, hitting first and they land on us. And we go again. And again. Finally, we realize we're the only one's who are trying to hang on--so we get off and climb our own ladder, letting them climb theirs. He's young, there's much hope. Protect your "mother's heart" today. You can do this. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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