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<blockquote data-quote="Karenvm" data-source="post: 687307" data-attributes="member: 15766"><p>Well, my husband and I talked to him tonight, and stood our ground. He has to be out of the dorm tomorrow. I told him we would pay to have the "boot" removed from his car (again), but then he is on his own. I don't know where he will go, and it hurts my heart so bad, but as I told him, I am only getting in the way of him ever being independent if I keep on "rescuing" him. He asked me "how can you say you love me and then not help me?", to which I replied that I love him SO much, but I am NOT helping him if I keep bailing him out of these messes. I told him that until he learns to face things head on, and take accountability for things, nothing is going to change. This is really the hardest thing I have ever done. I keep thinking, what if he kills himself? My sister lost her son at 21 (motorcycle accident), and I don't know how I would live with myself if I thought that I was somehow "responsible" for that (I know I am not, but there will always be that little part that wonders). UGH. </p><p>Thank you for your encouraging words. They really do help so much!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Karenvm, post: 687307, member: 15766"] Well, my husband and I talked to him tonight, and stood our ground. He has to be out of the dorm tomorrow. I told him we would pay to have the "boot" removed from his car (again), but then he is on his own. I don't know where he will go, and it hurts my heart so bad, but as I told him, I am only getting in the way of him ever being independent if I keep on "rescuing" him. He asked me "how can you say you love me and then not help me?", to which I replied that I love him SO much, but I am NOT helping him if I keep bailing him out of these messes. I told him that until he learns to face things head on, and take accountability for things, nothing is going to change. This is really the hardest thing I have ever done. I keep thinking, what if he kills himself? My sister lost her son at 21 (motorcycle accident), and I don't know how I would live with myself if I thought that I was somehow "responsible" for that (I know I am not, but there will always be that little part that wonders). UGH. Thank you for your encouraging words. They really do help so much! [/QUOTE]
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