elizabrary
Well-Known Member
I've been off here for awhile because I needed to get away, but now I'm back. About 3 weeks ago Kat ended up in the psychiatric ward for 4 days, which meant I had KK. As most of you probably know they don't keep you in the psychiatric ward long with-o insurance, so I was surprised they kept her that long, but she is nuts. They diagnosed her with-depression/anxiety disorder, put her on some medications and got her in a support group and into a counselor. Prior to all this going on she has eviction proceedings filed against her and she was living in the nastiest, last ditch place in town. She no longer has a job. I had not had much contact with-her because it was too chaotic and stressful. When she got out and we went to her apt to get some of her stuff I almost died at how disgusting the apt. was. It was filthy, stuff thrown everywhere, rotten food sitting out, dirty dishes all over. I couldn't believe how bad it was. I also found out what prompted her to have this breakdown was that she got drunk and went to some guy's work (a friend with-benefits who she wanted more with) and got in an argument with him and hit him. So she doesn't lose it over have nothing and getting evicted with a 2-year-old, but over some POS guy. Of course!
So she and KK are currently back at my house- oh joy! I wrote out a list of what is necessary to stay at my house and explained if she had more than 3 instances of non-compliance I would give her a move out date. The other night she went to a movie (or so she said) at 10:30 and said she would be home by 1. She got home at 2:30. The next day I told her I wouldn't babysit anymore except for her appointments. She asked why and when I didn't answer and just went about my business she let it drop. She got re-accepted to the culinary school she had planned to attend before getting pregnant by another POS guy. They accepted her again and she found out the tuition is $25,000 per year and she would have to move about 800 miles away. She told me it wasn't fair that me and her dad (who just got fired from his job!) didn't pay her tuition. She explained that we live in a college town and she knows nearly everybody else's parents pay their tuition. Really? I told her if she wanted to go bad enough she'll figure it out and left it at that. I have no idea if she's compliant with-her medications. If so I don't hold out hope that she will be long-term. We've been through this before.
The only good thing is I work full time and teach at the local university, so I have at least one 13 hour day per week. I've been loading her up with-my chores and errands. I also take the dogs to daycare on my longest day, so she picks them up for me. Of course I don't even trust her with-the money to pay for the dogs, so I take care of that ahead of time. Good Lord, she's 22 years old and still living like this. It's like having a 14 year old with a toddler. Not a good combination. I have been maintaining my detachment much better than in the past, which has usually been hard for me, especially when they are living here. Having KK here is fun, but the situation is not the best. If Kat didn't have the baby I would have never let her come home. She's still bascially an idiot, although she has much less mouth and attitude on her this time. I told her she has to start looking for a job, which she has to do anyway to get her welfare benefits. OK, just had to get all of this out because even though I have a few friends who "understand" nobody really understands like the people here!
So she and KK are currently back at my house- oh joy! I wrote out a list of what is necessary to stay at my house and explained if she had more than 3 instances of non-compliance I would give her a move out date. The other night she went to a movie (or so she said) at 10:30 and said she would be home by 1. She got home at 2:30. The next day I told her I wouldn't babysit anymore except for her appointments. She asked why and when I didn't answer and just went about my business she let it drop. She got re-accepted to the culinary school she had planned to attend before getting pregnant by another POS guy. They accepted her again and she found out the tuition is $25,000 per year and she would have to move about 800 miles away. She told me it wasn't fair that me and her dad (who just got fired from his job!) didn't pay her tuition. She explained that we live in a college town and she knows nearly everybody else's parents pay their tuition. Really? I told her if she wanted to go bad enough she'll figure it out and left it at that. I have no idea if she's compliant with-her medications. If so I don't hold out hope that she will be long-term. We've been through this before.
The only good thing is I work full time and teach at the local university, so I have at least one 13 hour day per week. I've been loading her up with-my chores and errands. I also take the dogs to daycare on my longest day, so she picks them up for me. Of course I don't even trust her with-the money to pay for the dogs, so I take care of that ahead of time. Good Lord, she's 22 years old and still living like this. It's like having a 14 year old with a toddler. Not a good combination. I have been maintaining my detachment much better than in the past, which has usually been hard for me, especially when they are living here. Having KK here is fun, but the situation is not the best. If Kat didn't have the baby I would have never let her come home. She's still bascially an idiot, although she has much less mouth and attitude on her this time. I told her she has to start looking for a job, which she has to do anyway to get her welfare benefits. OK, just had to get all of this out because even though I have a few friends who "understand" nobody really understands like the people here!
