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<blockquote data-quote="Confused" data-source="post: 657289" data-attributes="member: 18100"><p>Sorry about the Clonidine giving him headaches, and Im glad hes rarely violent. But yes, the defiance is horrible as well for you to deal with. So yes, I know you have done this as well as I have( not consistent but will be again) but flat rules, punishments, rewards) My son could care less on most punishments too, but his one main thing that does really get to him is his outside time, its his release. I know still doesnt always work. </p><p></p><p>A 504 is similar to and IEP. Both benefit the student, but the IEP has more involvement with the adults and student and detailed planning of what is to be done or is needed. Homework or classwork is better done at school for my son, very rare does he like to do it at home, it depends on what he likes, and reading and writing a book report is not one of them.</p><p></p><p>Yes, my son is similar to yours, he can be two kids in one. He can be so calm in an emergency, helpful to neighbors, funny, amazing smile and laugh, loves to take things apart to see how it works( cant ever fix it), very curious, needs to be around people, kids, animals. Now thats when hes in a "good and or calm mood- but can still be defiant and can be still irritable but not as bad, barely noticeable .Then other child comes out to be demanding, irritable, threatens, violent,breaks his stuff now out of anger and blames us that it was our fault! Completely unable to get his mind focused or changed to something else...Spend his money on his stuff and demand us to pay it back even if in a good mood! He will do things when he wants to, if he wants to and when it benefits him at times- But saying that, he still has trouble getting up, or going to things that HE wanted to do and blames us!!! At school he for the most part is well behaved, most issues there is not doing his work( adhd even tho on the medication) and at stores it can depend, but usually he is bad at the store( unless you let him buy anything he wants and let him pay using self checkout- then, theres hardly any issues )</p><p></p><p>The word No, the words, not yet or not now or let me think about it sets him off! I have gotten better and avoiding these terms, but when he asks or yells over and over, I do say them! He also does not like to be reminded or he says he wont do it now, but, he wont do it either way most times. He also gets that look in his eyes and face when mad, we also dont know when something will set him off from a good mood to out of control. It can be a moved cup, not having something ready when he expected, having to changes plans, having to take to long for something which he expects us to jump and drop everything we are doing in less a second and run to him! But see, some days these dont bother him, so we just dont know!</p><p></p><p>pasajes4 is right, sometimes, we do all we can, but our kids still have taken the hard road anyway. Hugs pasajes, I do hope things improve for him and your family. </p><p></p><p>To the others, good points/questions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Confused, post: 657289, member: 18100"] Sorry about the Clonidine giving him headaches, and Im glad hes rarely violent. But yes, the defiance is horrible as well for you to deal with. So yes, I know you have done this as well as I have( not consistent but will be again) but flat rules, punishments, rewards) My son could care less on most punishments too, but his one main thing that does really get to him is his outside time, its his release. I know still doesnt always work. A 504 is similar to and IEP. Both benefit the student, but the IEP has more involvement with the adults and student and detailed planning of what is to be done or is needed. Homework or classwork is better done at school for my son, very rare does he like to do it at home, it depends on what he likes, and reading and writing a book report is not one of them. Yes, my son is similar to yours, he can be two kids in one. He can be so calm in an emergency, helpful to neighbors, funny, amazing smile and laugh, loves to take things apart to see how it works( cant ever fix it), very curious, needs to be around people, kids, animals. Now thats when hes in a "good and or calm mood- but can still be defiant and can be still irritable but not as bad, barely noticeable .Then other child comes out to be demanding, irritable, threatens, violent,breaks his stuff now out of anger and blames us that it was our fault! Completely unable to get his mind focused or changed to something else...Spend his money on his stuff and demand us to pay it back even if in a good mood! He will do things when he wants to, if he wants to and when it benefits him at times- But saying that, he still has trouble getting up, or going to things that HE wanted to do and blames us!!! At school he for the most part is well behaved, most issues there is not doing his work( adhd even tho on the medication) and at stores it can depend, but usually he is bad at the store( unless you let him buy anything he wants and let him pay using self checkout- then, theres hardly any issues ) The word No, the words, not yet or not now or let me think about it sets him off! I have gotten better and avoiding these terms, but when he asks or yells over and over, I do say them! He also does not like to be reminded or he says he wont do it now, but, he wont do it either way most times. He also gets that look in his eyes and face when mad, we also dont know when something will set him off from a good mood to out of control. It can be a moved cup, not having something ready when he expected, having to changes plans, having to take to long for something which he expects us to jump and drop everything we are doing in less a second and run to him! But see, some days these dont bother him, so we just dont know! pasajes4 is right, sometimes, we do all we can, but our kids still have taken the hard road anyway. Hugs pasajes, I do hope things improve for him and your family. To the others, good points/questions. [/QUOTE]
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