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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 630865" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Lil,</p><p></p><p>your reaction and your decisions from your discussion with husband all sound healthy. </p><p></p><p>I recognize the feeling of being done done done.</p><p></p><p>That is a good thing, Lil. It make sit easier to do the next right thing, whatever that is. I don't know why we become done, but a lot of us on the board have had that experience. We feel it. It actually makes us feel hopeful for you, for your future happiness.</p><p></p><p>Regarding your son, it sounds like he may have an anxiety disorder...but if he refuses help there isn't much you can do about that. As MWM will tell you, even the mentally ill among us need to take responsibility for ourselves.</p><p></p><p>YOur son may up the ante on acting out now that you are drawing lines...be prepared for how you will respond to that. Remember that the loudness or depth of his anger or distress doesn't correlate to how WRONG you are...it just correlates to how severely he is connected to the status quo. </p><p></p><p>He may try to scare you by threatening to leave, or to hurt himself. Be prepared for those threats as well (I always think when they threaten to leave you should agree).</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting.</p><p></p><p>You are on the right path now, for you and for him.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 630865, member: 17269"] Lil, your reaction and your decisions from your discussion with husband all sound healthy. I recognize the feeling of being done done done. That is a good thing, Lil. It make sit easier to do the next right thing, whatever that is. I don't know why we become done, but a lot of us on the board have had that experience. We feel it. It actually makes us feel hopeful for you, for your future happiness. Regarding your son, it sounds like he may have an anxiety disorder...but if he refuses help there isn't much you can do about that. As MWM will tell you, even the mentally ill among us need to take responsibility for ourselves. YOur son may up the ante on acting out now that you are drawing lines...be prepared for how you will respond to that. Remember that the loudness or depth of his anger or distress doesn't correlate to how WRONG you are...it just correlates to how severely he is connected to the status quo. He may try to scare you by threatening to leave, or to hurt himself. Be prepared for those threats as well (I always think when they threaten to leave you should agree). Good luck. Keep posting. You are on the right path now, for you and for him. Echo [/QUOTE]
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