And the beat goes on....sigh!

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by DDD, Feb 9, 2008.

  1. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    The demon alcohol is taking control. This is the third time in five years that he has been unable to walk straight and threw up out the car window, in the toilet and now in the hall. His head could barely stay upright.

    He either can't or won't differentiate between "drinks" and "cups". Yes, I said "cups" of booze. He believes that people who toss down shots are binge drinkers and "have a problem" BUT if you just drink a cup or two you are OK. :sad-very:

    Although he "knows" that alcohol is BAD for his brain functioning he just can't face the demon. This time is the first time that I have cleaned up after him. He fell twice and I couldn't take a chance that he would slam his head tonight.

    He's lost 11 pounds in the sixteen days he has been home AND has taken
    all his pills on time and with-o complaint. He is helping a bit at the store inputting data in our computer but can't hold his concentration more than about fifteen minutes BUT we are pleased. Tomorrow morning he is going to church with a friend. I keep trying to think of the positive but tonight it was like a bad scene in a sorry movie about winos. DDD
  2. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    Yikes. A cup of booze is the equivalent by measure of 6-8 shots. More if he's drinking from something like a coffee mug which may hold twelve or more ounces. That's truly scary.

    Is he taking in calories other than the liquor? That's a big issue with him developing "wet brain" from the lack of nutrients. Add in the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) and you've got a potential nightmare.

    Is there anyway you can get him into at least a detox center to dry out. He needs serious help, a fact I am sure you are not unaware of.
  3. meowbunny

    meowbunny New Member

    No suggestions, no comments, just many many HUGS.

  4. ck1

    ck1 New Member

    Ditto what Meowbunny said...
  5. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Yes, sadly, I am aware.

    He has no memory of last night. He apologized. He thanked me for helping him. He has gone to church this morning. Before he left I said "son, when you are in church ask the Lord to help you overcome this terrible addiction". He replied "Mama, last night was unusual. I don't
    get drunk like that very often at all."

    Addiction denial + Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) symptoms + no totally healthy friends = a disaster
    waiting to happen........again. DDD
  6. PonyGirl

    PonyGirl Warrior Parent

    Sending more ((((((HUGS))))

  7. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    It does sound like a terrible thing to watch. I'm sorry for you and husband to have to watch your beloved grandson do this to himself. Hugs.
  8. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I am so sorry. Would you consider Al-Anon for some support for YOU? It sounds like he is not ready to face the problems. Until he is, he won't be able to heal. I don't know much about Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), but I do know this sounds like a recipe for a real tragedy.

    Please don't let him drive.

    Hugs, and many prayers,

  9. Ephchap

    Ephchap Active Member

    Awww, DDD, I'm so sad to read this. Wish I knew something new to suggest. I know you've tried everything under the sun, and then some.

    Sending more strength and hugs, my friend,
  10. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    DDD I am so sorry. It seems we are in a simular situation with our difficult child's. No answers just hugs. -RM
  11. gottaloveem

    gottaloveem Active Member

    sending sympathetic hugs!


    Wish there was more I could do or offer.