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Angry.....difficult child and Fallout.....Venting
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 635197" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks for sharing your story, HLM <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I have had two very good friends in my lifetime. One passed away. The other I"m still in touch with, although she is in Illinois and I'm in Wisconsin. She is also adopted and we went through the meeting of her birthfamily together. It was very interesting because her birthmother's HUSBAND, who is NOT her biological father, was the one who welcomed her into the family and made things good for his entire life. Now she feels like she has two families. It's pretty cool. She did NOT have the best adoptive parents, but she loved them.</p><p></p><p>My twenty-one year old son who has a form of autism is one of the nicest young adults I know...and I hear that from so many people. He is not "simple" and is high functioning. His kindness just shines through him. Yet his birthmother was a chronic drug addict and probably sold her services for money. Son was born with drugs in his system and with syphilis, which was treated. He could have autism because of her drug use. I have no idea. But I have a strong feeling that extreme poverty in her life, the type of which our children have never experienced, drove her to her lifestyle and I like to believe that under her drug use, she was as caring and loving as my son. He got it somewhere. Maybe it was from his birthfather who was only mentioned once and whom there is no info about. I think about that sometimes. My son is not interested, however, in meeting anyone. In his case, because he is naive and trusting, like a young child, and his family grew up poor, rough and tough, I think it's for the best. I shudder thinking of my son in the mean streets of South Chicago, where there is no industry to find work, gangs in the streets, death, and the drug users are the heroes. That's the reality of the worst poverty in our country. He probably would not have made it to age twenty-one...</p><p></p><p>My youngest daughter has a wonderful birthmother, but her birthfather is a chornic drug abuser who has done time in prison more than once. My daughter is so much like her birthmother!!!</p><p></p><p>I have a daughter who was born in Korea. She just gave me my very first granddaughter!!!! Yaaaaaaaaaaaay! I know nothing about her biology. One day she will probably try to find her birthmother. I am guessing she is sweet and a bit of a rebel!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, nice talking to you here <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Keep posting <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 635197, member: 1550"] Thanks for sharing your story, HLM :) I have had two very good friends in my lifetime. One passed away. The other I"m still in touch with, although she is in Illinois and I'm in Wisconsin. She is also adopted and we went through the meeting of her birthfamily together. It was very interesting because her birthmother's HUSBAND, who is NOT her biological father, was the one who welcomed her into the family and made things good for his entire life. Now she feels like she has two families. It's pretty cool. She did NOT have the best adoptive parents, but she loved them. My twenty-one year old son who has a form of autism is one of the nicest young adults I know...and I hear that from so many people. He is not "simple" and is high functioning. His kindness just shines through him. Yet his birthmother was a chronic drug addict and probably sold her services for money. Son was born with drugs in his system and with syphilis, which was treated. He could have autism because of her drug use. I have no idea. But I have a strong feeling that extreme poverty in her life, the type of which our children have never experienced, drove her to her lifestyle and I like to believe that under her drug use, she was as caring and loving as my son. He got it somewhere. Maybe it was from his birthfather who was only mentioned once and whom there is no info about. I think about that sometimes. My son is not interested, however, in meeting anyone. In his case, because he is naive and trusting, like a young child, and his family grew up poor, rough and tough, I think it's for the best. I shudder thinking of my son in the mean streets of South Chicago, where there is no industry to find work, gangs in the streets, death, and the drug users are the heroes. That's the reality of the worst poverty in our country. He probably would not have made it to age twenty-one... My youngest daughter has a wonderful birthmother, but her birthfather is a chornic drug abuser who has done time in prison more than once. My daughter is so much like her birthmother!!! I have a daughter who was born in Korea. She just gave me my very first granddaughter!!!! Yaaaaaaaaaaaay! I know nothing about her biology. One day she will probably try to find her birthmother. I am guessing she is sweet and a bit of a rebel! Anyway, nice talking to you here :) Keep posting :) [/QUOTE]
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