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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 742225" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Copa,</p><p>Of course you're right. We are all different. And you will fight to the end for yours as well.</p><p></p><p>I was thinking back to the days when mine was very young. When he had a mental health diagnosis but before I knew about sub use. He was so young I still hope he wasn't using then. (There are some details I don't ask as it wouldn't serve either of us.) But I recall going to a support group for parents of the mentally ill. I was the youngest there by far. I listened to people over 60 talk about their adult children, getting placements for them, housing, spending money, etc. I didn't relate and certainly never thought that would be me. And its not. Mine doesn't have the schizophrenia that I remember them talking about, the inability to function independently, juggling medications, etc. Over time my son's issues became mostly about sub abuse.</p><p></p><p>So when I read completely drained I think of them. Older adults still fighting for their children as if they were children. And in a lot of ways, inability to remember medications, clean themselves, function in society, they are still children. I wonder if that is completely drained's son. Those people never talked about letting go, they couldn't.</p><p></p><p>So I guess I'm wondering if there isn't a fundamental difference between parent support groups of adult children who are mentally ill and those with sub abuse. Its only my limited experience.</p><p></p><p>Hope I explained this intelligibly. The idea of letting go was just not ever considered in one group but in the other actively encouraged. I make no judgements either way and we both know people who struggle to stay with either approach.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 742225, member: 23371"] Copa, Of course you're right. We are all different. And you will fight to the end for yours as well. I was thinking back to the days when mine was very young. When he had a mental health diagnosis but before I knew about sub use. He was so young I still hope he wasn't using then. (There are some details I don't ask as it wouldn't serve either of us.) But I recall going to a support group for parents of the mentally ill. I was the youngest there by far. I listened to people over 60 talk about their adult children, getting placements for them, housing, spending money, etc. I didn't relate and certainly never thought that would be me. And its not. Mine doesn't have the schizophrenia that I remember them talking about, the inability to function independently, juggling medications, etc. Over time my son's issues became mostly about sub abuse. So when I read completely drained I think of them. Older adults still fighting for their children as if they were children. And in a lot of ways, inability to remember medications, clean themselves, function in society, they are still children. I wonder if that is completely drained's son. Those people never talked about letting go, they couldn't. So I guess I'm wondering if there isn't a fundamental difference between parent support groups of adult children who are mentally ill and those with sub abuse. Its only my limited experience. Hope I explained this intelligibly. The idea of letting go was just not ever considered in one group but in the other actively encouraged. I make no judgements either way and we both know people who struggle to stay with either approach. [/QUOTE]
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