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<blockquote data-quote="work in progress" data-source="post: 19420" data-attributes="member: 2672"><p>AL, </p><p></p><p>I know that this a bit late. I just wanted to tell you my story. My younger sister went through the same thing and she was 17 and living at home when she met her abuser. It is a difficult time for a young lady and her family when she is abused by someone she loves, so I can imagine what you must be going through. Before sis and boyfriend#1 lived together, my sis had spinal surgery to correct scoliosis. Do you believe this guy was pushing her around even though she wore a body cast from the neck to the pelvis? </p><p></p><p>She was always independent so she moved out after graduation.. They lived together. She'd get orders of protection then rescind them, had locks to their apartment changed, ph numbers changed, but then she'd give the boyfriend her new phone number and new keys to the locks. She changed her number at least a dozen times. </p><p></p><p>We all told sis, no man who truly loves a woman beats her. Whether he was intox or not, it's inexcusable. Sis'd bring him to our family functions. It was hard for us all to see them together after the stress he put us through. I told her one day, to look at herself in the mirror. boyfriend had knocked out some teeth and had pulled her long hair out by the temples. She was always beautiful so it was hard to witness. She developed an eating disorder of binging and purging. Fortunately, our stepdad, uncles, and other males eventually put the fear in him, because boyfriend #1 finally left her alone. </p><p></p><p>She met another man and the abuse started again but this time she eventually put her stuff into storage and moved nearer to me to my family's relief and then after she got a good job, she thought of bringing boyfriend# 2 here to live. He didn't strike me as an abusive type. He was a drug user; cocaine being his drug of choice. I was like are you kidding? He called her long-distance telling her if she returned he would marry her. My sis returned to him, marrying boyfriend #2, had a child, divorcing and marrying him twice.. </p><p> </p><p>At this writing, my Sis has been married to a nice, patient man for at least five years and they have a child between them. No reports of abuse are known at this time. </p><p></p><p>Sadly, a woman suffered at the hands at boyfriend #1. He spent time in prison for allegedly beating her so badly that she miscarried. </p><p></p><p>Please beg your daughter to seek help, take self-defense lessons and get some into therapy with abusive woman counselor. Maybe keep a can of hot pepper spray or mace (if its legal in your state) in her purse or find a safe place in her apartment with an inside lock so she can go there where she can dial for help in case he breaks in. </p><p></p><p>Again, I pray for you and your family. </p><p></p><p>WIP</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="work in progress, post: 19420, member: 2672"] AL, I know that this a bit late. I just wanted to tell you my story. My younger sister went through the same thing and she was 17 and living at home when she met her abuser. It is a difficult time for a young lady and her family when she is abused by someone she loves, so I can imagine what you must be going through. Before sis and boyfriend#1 lived together, my sis had spinal surgery to correct scoliosis. Do you believe this guy was pushing her around even though she wore a body cast from the neck to the pelvis? She was always independent so she moved out after graduation.. They lived together. She'd get orders of protection then rescind them, had locks to their apartment changed, ph numbers changed, but then she'd give the boyfriend her new phone number and new keys to the locks. She changed her number at least a dozen times. We all told sis, no man who truly loves a woman beats her. Whether he was intox or not, it's inexcusable. Sis'd bring him to our family functions. It was hard for us all to see them together after the stress he put us through. I told her one day, to look at herself in the mirror. boyfriend had knocked out some teeth and had pulled her long hair out by the temples. She was always beautiful so it was hard to witness. She developed an eating disorder of binging and purging. Fortunately, our stepdad, uncles, and other males eventually put the fear in him, because boyfriend #1 finally left her alone. She met another man and the abuse started again but this time she eventually put her stuff into storage and moved nearer to me to my family's relief and then after she got a good job, she thought of bringing boyfriend# 2 here to live. He didn't strike me as an abusive type. He was a drug user; cocaine being his drug of choice. I was like are you kidding? He called her long-distance telling her if she returned he would marry her. My sis returned to him, marrying boyfriend #2, had a child, divorcing and marrying him twice.. At this writing, my Sis has been married to a nice, patient man for at least five years and they have a child between them. No reports of abuse are known at this time. Sadly, a woman suffered at the hands at boyfriend #1. He spent time in prison for allegedly beating her so badly that she miscarried. Please beg your daughter to seek help, take self-defense lessons and get some into therapy with abusive woman counselor. Maybe keep a can of hot pepper spray or mace (if its legal in your state) in her purse or find a safe place in her apartment with an inside lock so she can go there where she can dial for help in case he breaks in. Again, I pray for you and your family. WIP [/QUOTE]
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