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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 682689" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>I would rethink the current punishment. I tried not to double punish for school offenses, except if it was for not doing school work...then they had to give up Tv, or phone, or friends until work was caught up. But they had to work in the living room, not locked away in their room. Then offered rewards for getting work done...like a game, or pop some pop corn and watch a favorite show together. I think I would try to have stepson work towards positive time with dad or you. Even if it is following a consequence for bad behavior. Which it sounds like he will take any attention he can get by what ever means... Maybe sending to room with instructions to write an apology, or talk about ways to do better, maybe role play with him...let him be the "mean teacher making demands" and you play the child and show him a better way to respond. Like "I really don't want to do xxxx can I go to the quiet spot and calm down first, and then I will try it?" "I feel like punching something, can I run around the playground until that feeling stops?" </p><p></p><p>There are lots of "social books" for kids his age. A librarian could help you find some. It usually deals with a story about a kid with a challenge or problem and ways they try to deal with it, to show what works and doesn't work...</p><p></p><p>Can you find a hobby for him? A sport? A club? Even giving him his own few feet of garden and plants to take care of? Build a simple model car? It sounds like he has few friends and needs an outlet to find new interests.</p><p></p><p>KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 682689, member: 12511"] I would rethink the current punishment. I tried not to double punish for school offenses, except if it was for not doing school work...then they had to give up Tv, or phone, or friends until work was caught up. But they had to work in the living room, not locked away in their room. Then offered rewards for getting work done...like a game, or pop some pop corn and watch a favorite show together. I think I would try to have stepson work towards positive time with dad or you. Even if it is following a consequence for bad behavior. Which it sounds like he will take any attention he can get by what ever means... Maybe sending to room with instructions to write an apology, or talk about ways to do better, maybe role play with him...let him be the "mean teacher making demands" and you play the child and show him a better way to respond. Like "I really don't want to do xxxx can I go to the quiet spot and calm down first, and then I will try it?" "I feel like punching something, can I run around the playground until that feeling stops?" There are lots of "social books" for kids his age. A librarian could help you find some. It usually deals with a story about a kid with a challenge or problem and ways they try to deal with it, to show what works and doesn't work... Can you find a hobby for him? A sport? A club? Even giving him his own few feet of garden and plants to take care of? Build a simple model car? It sounds like he has few friends and needs an outlet to find new interests. KSM [/QUOTE]
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