I really hope we are in the right direction now with the medications and Neurologist.. still seeking Therapy for us all. Of course daughter refuses to go or get tested. I know shes under 18 and I can drag her kicking and screaming in. Their father all sudden is paying full insurance for them and still child support- making comments of getting custody ( Im still jobless and single- as he has a job and is married with a kid in his " perfect world he says hes in". Ya he pays more attention to our kids when he with someone he's "in love" with or married like he is now.. all sudden hes father model of the year. Either she really believes him on everything that hes so loving and perfect father and its all my and the other mothers fault or she is sticking by his lies. I hope he changed for his new kids sake and ours and his other kids...( he just badly cussed out the other mother to me too over something) He says he can do a better job, countless comments that its me, the kids will be great with him full time etc... so I know hes starting to get ready for court. All sudden he is not an alcoholic, verbal/ violent abuser/ serial cheater/ and home except for work etc. and perfect dad...and doesnt have the dangerous friends around anymore.. Ok... hope its true. He will be paying half or more of support so easier for him to get custody. Even when I get settled in a job... he wont allow me to switch Insurance to under mine. My daughter says she doesn't want to go, doesn't want to see him, doesnt want gifts or even him to pay for any insurance for her but yet all I do for her is wrong But like I told her if Judge says she has to go with her brother they have to go. I already battled in court once... that he violated a few times ... but nothing was done over it...course he only showed once the other time he didnt... long story. He's in another tantrum now because my dad told him to put his coat on.... I hope the medications increase works but if their dad gets custody he wont need the medications he will be perfect as his dad says. Well he actually is in the car ( my dad is taking them up to school Im so blah) So we will see if he is in the car when my dad returns. Tantrums are the same.. maybe shorter tho.. but the threats of killing us or himself has increased...I checked if it was the medications.. still looking into it if it can be a side effect but even before pills he said it a few times ??.... anger still there.... all the same I guess basically so no need to report back here anymore. You all have heard the same issues for years now anyway.. and I am scared it ill will/is get worse with now possibly both Best wishes for all of you, and I will always be grateful for the years you have given us! I wish I could of helped someone here...Lots of hugs and cures for you all.