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Another point of view on Shunning. And shunning vs. no contact
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 674751" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It has a new politically correct label..."no contact" lol. I think the trend of therapists telling people to shun their loved ones is a fad. But it's not funny if it happens to you. And it is a punishment from the shunner.</p><p></p><p>But sometimes it's a gift to be shunned. Do we need people in our lives who do these things to us? Especially repeatedly? And to people other than us as well? I feel it was a real gift to my kids not to have to deal with these types of people and they sure don't seem to miss them. Their shun may be a gift for you. It is for me a nd was for me. I can not imagine the damage my mother and sister could have done to my children, especially mother as the grandmother. I imagine she'd play favorites as she apparently did with Sis's kids. Princess has never liked her. Bart just doesn't want anything to do with FOO... and Bart had first hand face-to-face BAD experience with mother."She called me a liar." She did. But he wasn't lying. That's how my mother talked, but they were spared her (my children) and not used to being called names. </p><p></p><p>No thanks. And her temper and lectures and demeaning language...my kids did not need that either.</p><p></p><p>For a while now, years, my kids had asked me why I bother with my sister. They knew how mean she is. They know she doesn't care about me and never did. Jumper and Sonic were young when she started calling the cops on us, so they think she is slightly addled.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 674751, member: 1550"] It has a new politically correct label..."no contact" lol. I think the trend of therapists telling people to shun their loved ones is a fad. But it's not funny if it happens to you. And it is a punishment from the shunner. But sometimes it's a gift to be shunned. Do we need people in our lives who do these things to us? Especially repeatedly? And to people other than us as well? I feel it was a real gift to my kids not to have to deal with these types of people and they sure don't seem to miss them. Their shun may be a gift for you. It is for me a nd was for me. I can not imagine the damage my mother and sister could have done to my children, especially mother as the grandmother. I imagine she'd play favorites as she apparently did with Sis's kids. Princess has never liked her. Bart just doesn't want anything to do with FOO... and Bart had first hand face-to-face BAD experience with mother."She called me a liar." She did. But he wasn't lying. That's how my mother talked, but they were spared her (my children) and not used to being called names. No thanks. And her temper and lectures and demeaning language...my kids did not need that either. For a while now, years, my kids had asked me why I bother with my sister. They knew how mean she is. They know she doesn't care about me and never did. Jumper and Sonic were young when she started calling the cops on us, so they think she is slightly addled. [/QUOTE]
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