It recently was suggested to my husband and myself that our daughter may be ODD. What news. Not good, not bad. Just news you don't ever want to hear. "There's something wrong with my baby? No, not my baby!" Was all I heard in my head that night. She's 5. She does well in school overall. She's only had 1 or 2 outbursts. Which I attribute to the structure the teacher provides. It's terrible at home. Structure is a word I need and my husband feels it's a bad thing. He was told that she needs structure. I've proven it time and time again. She physically lashes out at me often. It's scary because I have fibromyalgia which is physically painfull and challenging for me. She's going to really hurt me one of these days. What's really horrible is that the guilt I feel because I don't like her (when she's acting out) and don't want to be near her. Life waited so long to give me children and I don't want to be near her. What's wrong with me! I try not so feel those things often, nor say them frequently either. But it's the feelings I feel I am sad to say. I intend to find someone to assist us in completely determining whether or not it is ODD, or we're just bad parents. She deserves our full love and attention regardless of the painful outbursts. And I intend to give her that as best I can. I just need to vent I suppose. I don't want to discuss with anyone outside of our house until we have a game plan, I don't need their (his family) input and "opinions", and I'm sure he'll be happy to discuss it all with them. Am I wrong in wanting to determine the problem before I get unsolicited answers from them? I'm rambling, I'm sorry. But I appreciate the time. Thank you for all those who have posted prior, I'm learning more and more.