Shari
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of the stuff in my world...
I don't know if I even posted about this...I thought so, but I don't see it, so maybe not.
Anyway, about 3 weeks, ago, cgfg's mom emailed me about the summer. She didn't ask, she just told us that she was keeping cgfg for Memorial weekend (which is husband's holiday with her this year) and then we would be flip-flopping every weekend for the rest of the year.
We have plans on Sunday of Memorial Weekend that cgfg wants to be a part of, but she wasn't sure what her mom's plans were. husband and I told her to go with whomever she wanted. If her mom was doing something she wanted to do, she could go with her mom. Or, if it wasn't far away, she could go with her mom and I'd pick her up for Sunday. Basically, whatever she wanted to do kinda thing. Other than that, we've made some plans around cgfg's weekends here already. Concert tickets for the kids to see Taylor Swift one weekend, planned a group trail ride and campout one weekend, stuff like that. But instead of just saying no to her mom (who is easily angered), I suggested we write down the plans we already had made, and cgfg and her mom could take it and work a schedule for weekends from there. She could decide with her mom if she wanted to stick with the plans we'd already made or not, and basically her mom could dictate the weekends - we told her we didn't care, whatever she wanted to do with it.
(husband and I are of the camp that cgfg largely ought to be able to spend time with either parent without limiting it to what's on the court papers; her mom believes the court papers is all her dad is allowed. If she wants to go back to her mom's on Sunday of our weekend to join them for something, we let her. But her mom doesn't allow it the other way around most of the time.)
Her mom's hubby has 3 kids, also, that are there every other weekend. They only plan one outing a year as a family; the rest of the time, mom wants all the kids at the same time, and she and her hubby do their "going and doing" on the "off" weekends without the kids. (not speculation-her mom outright told me this) So she gets mad at us asking to switch weekends because that means cgfg is there when the stepkids aren't, and it intereferes with her free time, so this is a big deal to her, but from the other side of the coin. We plan to do things when cgfg is with us; her mom plans to do things when she's away.
Anyway, her mom had asked to trade weekends for every weekend in April, but was very angry at the calendar approach, that I sent to her around the last week of April. How dare we think cgfg could just be here for all these events, yada yada yada? But, she went with it, and she and her husband figured out what weekends they wanted cgfg, and she sent it back.
She just emailed me to bring her the calendar. She didn't keep a copy of it or write down what weekends she put down for cgfg to be where.
Its not a big deal, but really, who makes a schedule for their kid for an entire year and doesn't keep a copy of it? It gets really old sometimes feeling like the only person in this whole circle of people who keeps track of anything. Besides Two Brooms and her cow tracking....
I don't know if I even posted about this...I thought so, but I don't see it, so maybe not.
Anyway, about 3 weeks, ago, cgfg's mom emailed me about the summer. She didn't ask, she just told us that she was keeping cgfg for Memorial weekend (which is husband's holiday with her this year) and then we would be flip-flopping every weekend for the rest of the year.
We have plans on Sunday of Memorial Weekend that cgfg wants to be a part of, but she wasn't sure what her mom's plans were. husband and I told her to go with whomever she wanted. If her mom was doing something she wanted to do, she could go with her mom. Or, if it wasn't far away, she could go with her mom and I'd pick her up for Sunday. Basically, whatever she wanted to do kinda thing. Other than that, we've made some plans around cgfg's weekends here already. Concert tickets for the kids to see Taylor Swift one weekend, planned a group trail ride and campout one weekend, stuff like that. But instead of just saying no to her mom (who is easily angered), I suggested we write down the plans we already had made, and cgfg and her mom could take it and work a schedule for weekends from there. She could decide with her mom if she wanted to stick with the plans we'd already made or not, and basically her mom could dictate the weekends - we told her we didn't care, whatever she wanted to do with it.
(husband and I are of the camp that cgfg largely ought to be able to spend time with either parent without limiting it to what's on the court papers; her mom believes the court papers is all her dad is allowed. If she wants to go back to her mom's on Sunday of our weekend to join them for something, we let her. But her mom doesn't allow it the other way around most of the time.)
Her mom's hubby has 3 kids, also, that are there every other weekend. They only plan one outing a year as a family; the rest of the time, mom wants all the kids at the same time, and she and her hubby do their "going and doing" on the "off" weekends without the kids. (not speculation-her mom outright told me this) So she gets mad at us asking to switch weekends because that means cgfg is there when the stepkids aren't, and it intereferes with her free time, so this is a big deal to her, but from the other side of the coin. We plan to do things when cgfg is with us; her mom plans to do things when she's away.
Anyway, her mom had asked to trade weekends for every weekend in April, but was very angry at the calendar approach, that I sent to her around the last week of April. How dare we think cgfg could just be here for all these events, yada yada yada? But, she went with it, and she and her husband figured out what weekends they wanted cgfg, and she sent it back.
She just emailed me to bring her the calendar. She didn't keep a copy of it or write down what weekends she put down for cgfg to be where.
Its not a big deal, but really, who makes a schedule for their kid for an entire year and doesn't keep a copy of it? It gets really old sometimes feeling like the only person in this whole circle of people who keeps track of anything. Besides Two Brooms and her cow tracking....