I guess I've been venting a lot lately....and I apologize. Thank you all so much for putting up with me!
Lately I've just been questioning everything about my parenting skills. It seems now that BOTH of my kids are on a bad road and I fear that they are BOTH going to end up making the kinds of decisions that will lead them to a life of hardship. And I have no idea what to do about it.
This weekend I had my son with me while I was running errands and he came up with a brand new pack of gum. Well, I didn't buy it for him--so he clearly lifted it from one of the stores while we were out....
But he denied it--swore up and down that his friend had given him the gum and he was just saving it in his pocket. I asked for his friend's number to verify the story---he didn't have it. So I took away the gum and grounded him to his bedroom for the rest of the weekend.
On Monday (yesterday)--he comes home from school with his friend's phone number. So husband calls the parents, asks them about the gum and they VERIFY that they sent their son to school with all kinds of new packs of gum and he must have shared some with my son.
OK--very good problem solved. Weird story--but since the parents verified it....my son is off grounding.
Now today, on her way out the door--difficult child whispers to husband "Ya know, he told me he really DID steal the gum from the store. He just got his friend to cover for him."
So now, I don't know what to think....
Every time I turn around something is missing. Something is gone. Something has disappeared. Nobody knows anything about it....except the standard 'O not me!'. And they each blame the other.
This whole thing is so far out of my control any more. I can't catch them in the act--and so it is nothing but lies and cover ups and excuses.
If they want to make these kinds of choices--it is going to catch up with them sooner or later. And if I can't catch them sooner....I guess they'll just have to pay for it later.
And I'm almost getting to the point where I just am too tired to care.
I'm a bad Mom who has raised a couple of bad kids.
And there doesn't seem to be any way to make it right.....
--DaisyF
Lately I've just been questioning everything about my parenting skills. It seems now that BOTH of my kids are on a bad road and I fear that they are BOTH going to end up making the kinds of decisions that will lead them to a life of hardship. And I have no idea what to do about it.
This weekend I had my son with me while I was running errands and he came up with a brand new pack of gum. Well, I didn't buy it for him--so he clearly lifted it from one of the stores while we were out....
But he denied it--swore up and down that his friend had given him the gum and he was just saving it in his pocket. I asked for his friend's number to verify the story---he didn't have it. So I took away the gum and grounded him to his bedroom for the rest of the weekend.
On Monday (yesterday)--he comes home from school with his friend's phone number. So husband calls the parents, asks them about the gum and they VERIFY that they sent their son to school with all kinds of new packs of gum and he must have shared some with my son.
OK--very good problem solved. Weird story--but since the parents verified it....my son is off grounding.
Now today, on her way out the door--difficult child whispers to husband "Ya know, he told me he really DID steal the gum from the store. He just got his friend to cover for him."
So now, I don't know what to think....
Every time I turn around something is missing. Something is gone. Something has disappeared. Nobody knows anything about it....except the standard 'O not me!'. And they each blame the other.
This whole thing is so far out of my control any more. I can't catch them in the act--and so it is nothing but lies and cover ups and excuses.
If they want to make these kinds of choices--it is going to catch up with them sooner or later. And if I can't catch them sooner....I guess they'll just have to pay for it later.
And I'm almost getting to the point where I just am too tired to care.
I'm a bad Mom who has raised a couple of bad kids.
And there doesn't seem to be any way to make it right.....
--DaisyF