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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 39160" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Janet, I "know" about meal tickets. We have gotten $500 from</p><p>GFGmom over the past 5 or 6 years for difficult child and zero for easy child/difficult child.</p><p>If you accept that you want to protect Kaleb, you have to think</p><p>like they think. They want freedom. They want bucks. They want</p><p>people to tell them how cute "their" son is when they have him.</p><p>They will NOT give you custody...I know that.</p><p></p><p>BUT if you take away all their adult responsibilities, let them</p><p>keep their darn food stamps and money, you can get Kaleb safely</p><p>in your home. Yes, you will have to let them "play parent" on</p><p>occasion BUT you absolutely will NOT have to send Kaleb off in the middle of the night because your P of A will give YOU the</p><p>right to make choices for his health and safety.</p><p></p><p>Kaleb will know where "his" house is, where "his" bed is, where</p><p>his Mama (or Nana or whatever) is and when he will be picked up</p><p>and etc. etc. all the things that "may" save him from long term</p><p>trauma from being dropped off by both parents with could-be dangerous babysitters.</p><p></p><p>It's a sales situation Janet. You have to figure out how to sell</p><p>them on the idea so Kaleb is safe. They WANT everything to be focused on them...that's the key to the sale. Their needs get</p><p>addressed first (in your head). Kaleb's needs are actually the</p><p>most important. You...you then decide to accept that you will</p><p>not have a peaceful life. Once you have that piece of paper you</p><p>can quietly and politely tell either parent NO if they are going</p><p>to put Kaleb in danger. Believe me, that paper combined with possession of the child will protect you both if Ant is drunk</p><p>or one of them leave him with a loser.</p><p></p><p>It IS possible. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 39160, member: 35"] Janet, I "know" about meal tickets. We have gotten $500 from GFGmom over the past 5 or 6 years for difficult child and zero for easy child/difficult child. If you accept that you want to protect Kaleb, you have to think like they think. They want freedom. They want bucks. They want people to tell them how cute "their" son is when they have him. They will NOT give you custody...I know that. BUT if you take away all their adult responsibilities, let them keep their darn food stamps and money, you can get Kaleb safely in your home. Yes, you will have to let them "play parent" on occasion BUT you absolutely will NOT have to send Kaleb off in the middle of the night because your P of A will give YOU the right to make choices for his health and safety. Kaleb will know where "his" house is, where "his" bed is, where his Mama (or Nana or whatever) is and when he will be picked up and etc. etc. all the things that "may" save him from long term trauma from being dropped off by both parents with could-be dangerous babysitters. It's a sales situation Janet. You have to figure out how to sell them on the idea so Kaleb is safe. They WANT everything to be focused on them...that's the key to the sale. Their needs get addressed first (in your head). Kaleb's needs are actually the most important. You...you then decide to accept that you will not have a peaceful life. Once you have that piece of paper you can quietly and politely tell either parent NO if they are going to put Kaleb in danger. Believe me, that paper combined with possession of the child will protect you both if Ant is drunk or one of them leave him with a loser. It IS possible. DDD [/QUOTE]
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