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<blockquote data-quote="ScentofCedar" data-source="post: 14326" data-attributes="member: 3353"><p>Post-traumatic stress reactions after what we have been through with our kids ~ both the things we would not let ourselves know we were thinking and the things we dealt with, physically and emotionally, are a normal response to our situations I think, Melissa. For those of us with traumatic childhoods, it's worse.</p><p></p><p>I agree that this would be the time to access a therapist. Not someone to hold your hand and tell you how normal these reactions are, but someone to help you identify the reactions and an appropriate response to them. What is that kind of therapy called? Cognitive therapy? Does anyone remember?</p><p></p><p>I saw such a therapist, and she was a life saver. There was no question that the reactions were abnormal ~ the whole point of the therapy was to give me the tools which would enable me to live my life while I healed. </p><p></p><p>Everything that happens to us affects us, Melissa. During those times you were frightened for, or horrified by, what your daughter had done, you ignored your own feelings and your own pain. </p><p></p><p>Now, here they are, and they need to be dealt with for you to go on in a healthy way.</p><p></p><p>Eventually, I think we all come to terms with it.</p><p></p><p>A good therapist can speed that process.</p><p></p><p>Know that I am holding you in my thoughts and prayers, Melissa.</p><p></p><p>In fact, I had someone tell me this once: Envision youself traveling through a deep woods in the dark of the night. Far, far ahead, glimmering through the trees, there is a light.</p><p></p><p>You make your way toward it.</p><p></p><p>I am holding the light.</p><p></p><p>I have been where you are. I came out the other side because there was someone there, holding a light for me to find my way, too.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p><p></p><p>P.S. Am I understanding that you have custody of the baby, Melissa? Much as you love him, that may be part of everything. Again, I think a therapist would be a good resource for you. Anything we can look at, we can deal with (especially moms like us, who have learned we possessed strength we never knew existed).</p><p></p><p>Our minds are funny things, though. Sometimes, they don't let us see so clearly what the issues are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ScentofCedar, post: 14326, member: 3353"] Post-traumatic stress reactions after what we have been through with our kids ~ both the things we would not let ourselves know we were thinking and the things we dealt with, physically and emotionally, are a normal response to our situations I think, Melissa. For those of us with traumatic childhoods, it's worse. I agree that this would be the time to access a therapist. Not someone to hold your hand and tell you how normal these reactions are, but someone to help you identify the reactions and an appropriate response to them. What is that kind of therapy called? Cognitive therapy? Does anyone remember? I saw such a therapist, and she was a life saver. There was no question that the reactions were abnormal ~ the whole point of the therapy was to give me the tools which would enable me to live my life while I healed. Everything that happens to us affects us, Melissa. During those times you were frightened for, or horrified by, what your daughter had done, you ignored your own feelings and your own pain. Now, here they are, and they need to be dealt with for you to go on in a healthy way. Eventually, I think we all come to terms with it. A good therapist can speed that process. Know that I am holding you in my thoughts and prayers, Melissa. In fact, I had someone tell me this once: Envision youself traveling through a deep woods in the dark of the night. Far, far ahead, glimmering through the trees, there is a light. You make your way toward it. I am holding the light. I have been where you are. I came out the other side because there was someone there, holding a light for me to find my way, too. Barbara P.S. Am I understanding that you have custody of the baby, Melissa? Much as you love him, that may be part of everything. Again, I think a therapist would be a good resource for you. Anything we can look at, we can deal with (especially moms like us, who have learned we possessed strength we never knew existed). Our minds are funny things, though. Sometimes, they don't let us see so clearly what the issues are. [/QUOTE]
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