My daughter is 12, has hx of anxiety disorder and used to pull her feeling inward but now they are really coming out! She was given the diagnosis of learning disorder not otherwise specified...she is difficult to really figure out. SHe is social, attractive and popular. Which she is most interested in. School has always been challenging, and I must admit it is in the last 3 yrs that I did the research and testing and realized she wasnt LAZY like even I was begining to think. Now she is just doing work in the classroom and chucking the rest. She does try some homework but she is soooo distractable she doesnt last long on hmwork and gets tired of it. Here is the deal, for the last 3 yrs we sit with her for hrs trying to keep her on task and get the work done. SHe used to wander off to other parts of the house if we didnt. She just has a million things running in her mind. So we were sitting there basically being her external boundry. And she would fight us (verbally) and I am not kidding we would be up till 11 doing school work. So we kept adjusting her IEP, the school really is trying to work with her but they also say she has to do her part. This year she dosent want our help but cant stay focused on it and gives up. The reason she is having so much hmwork is she dosent get it done in class, and she has a special study hall even that most other kids dont have. She isnt hyper so yes I do think she has ADD. In fact she has been diagnosis with ADHD and anxiety disorder. We tried alot of ADHD medication and she reacted worse with each of them. Then she would get so worried about her school work NOT getting done she would and still does peel skin off her fingers and toes, and just become sick to her stomach with worry. SHe told her psychiatrist that and we started her on Prozac. She is...or was... happier I noticed. She seems really immature in some ways. I am not in a hurry for her to be mature though so I am ok with staying in childhood awhile longer. Tonight she returned home from an overnight youth retreat all in a panic cause the youth pastor wanted to talk to me about her behavior. SHe has never had bad behavior outside of home like this (at home she is mouthy, swearing, trying to get reactions and defiant) so I hear her side and the youth pastors side and it does sound like her at home...but difficult child says they are lying and difficult child cant understand the things they ask of her because they were in rapid succession and difficult child felt pressured. ANd she forgot things they were telling her and the pastor was a big fat liar. Youth pastor was so surprised at difficult child behavior thats why she even said anything to me because she was concerned. difficult child was anxious that I believe only her side and when I talked to pastor, difficult child fell apart first mouthing then bawling, refusing to eat, emotion. Later tonight she crawled in bed with me and jsut wanted me to rub her hair, still puffy eyed from crying. She is pretty good at telling the truth, she will flat tell me "I did this wrong" but she is admament that this time she was a victim. And if I didnt know the people she was with I might believe her more. I really thinks she is so scatterbrained and un aware of where she should be and what she should be doing that she feels like a victim because she gets in trouble so much. THEN, she gets defensive and that makes things worse. Going Monday to ask to try yet another ADD medication. SHe is on the Prozac and Lamictal, but Lamictal isnt doing anything and dont think she is bipolar. I think she had some processing disorder. She is a messy kid..physically and emotionally, she seems to spill things and her thoughts all over. There is so much more but this is way too long already. Any advice?