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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 49253" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">genius with no common sense...</div></div></p><p></p><p>That DOES seem to be a common thread, doesn't it? NOLA, welcome. I wish you weren't here, but I'm glad you found us. You aren't alone any more. Your story (names changed) could be anyone's story here.</p><p></p><p>As to what to do, I wouldn't presume to suggest anything. I'm having a difficult enough time with my own son, so who am I to recommend something to you? I will say, however, that I've found this is a journey for the parents as well as the difficult child's. </p><p></p><p>And at various points along the way, you'll make the decisions you think are right at the time. We all do. </p><p></p><p>It wasn't too long ago that I was in the "preserve the good things in my son's life, while helping him battle the bad things" mode. Only recently have I become okay with letting him feel the pain of his decisions. In fact, last night he and some friends got stopped by the police with booze and pot in the car (not his car, though). Unlike six months ago, I was fully prepared to let him go to juvie and face the judge, if the cops decided to take him there. It didn't happen (he hadn't been drinking), but I was ready to let him go none-the-less.</p><p></p><p>It's a journey for us all, and everyone's path is different, with different milestones. All I would humbly offer is make the best decisions you can for both you and your son. Use the best information you can find (the folks on CD that have been there done that are great resources) to make those decisions. And, as someone here told me a while back, don't throw any option out. Something you may think is "unthinkable" right now may, in fact, be exactly what you have to do down the road. Keep an open mind.</p><p></p><p>And, more than anything else, no matter how mad, depressed, or agitated you may get, don't let those things overshadow the love you have for your son. It's the love that will show you what to do, and keep you fighting long after parents with "normal" kids would have given up.</p><p></p><p>Again, with a sad heart for you (but hope as well), I say "Welcome".</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 49253, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">genius with no common sense...</div></div> That DOES seem to be a common thread, doesn't it? NOLA, welcome. I wish you weren't here, but I'm glad you found us. You aren't alone any more. Your story (names changed) could be anyone's story here. As to what to do, I wouldn't presume to suggest anything. I'm having a difficult enough time with my own son, so who am I to recommend something to you? I will say, however, that I've found this is a journey for the parents as well as the difficult child's. And at various points along the way, you'll make the decisions you think are right at the time. We all do. It wasn't too long ago that I was in the "preserve the good things in my son's life, while helping him battle the bad things" mode. Only recently have I become okay with letting him feel the pain of his decisions. In fact, last night he and some friends got stopped by the police with booze and pot in the car (not his car, though). Unlike six months ago, I was fully prepared to let him go to juvie and face the judge, if the cops decided to take him there. It didn't happen (he hadn't been drinking), but I was ready to let him go none-the-less. It's a journey for us all, and everyone's path is different, with different milestones. All I would humbly offer is make the best decisions you can for both you and your son. Use the best information you can find (the folks on CD that have been there done that are great resources) to make those decisions. And, as someone here told me a while back, don't throw any option out. Something you may think is "unthinkable" right now may, in fact, be exactly what you have to do down the road. Keep an open mind. And, more than anything else, no matter how mad, depressed, or agitated you may get, don't let those things overshadow the love you have for your son. It's the love that will show you what to do, and keep you fighting long after parents with "normal" kids would have given up. Again, with a sad heart for you (but hope as well), I say "Welcome". Mikey [/QUOTE]
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