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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 50754" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. Sometimes I think the brilliant, clueless kids may have undiagnosed Aspergers (brilliant academically/no life skills). My daughter was not gifted in any way--she had some Learning Disability (LD)'s with an average IQ, but she took every drug that exists. By age 16 she was taking her window out of her room and climbing out of the house to run on the streets with her druggie friends. I'm convinced that, at that age, there is no "right" or "wrong" thing to do. It's different for each kid, and these almost adults will do what they want to do, unless they are locked up. My daughter was on parole twice, and that didn't stop her from doing drugs. She was a great liar, but really dumb about her drug use. We found ashes and bits of pot in her room all the time. It was neverending. I wish I had good advice. If I hadn't been so clueless myself, and not realized she was doing a lot more than pot, I would have probably put her in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) just to get her away from her "friends" (I use the word loosely here). And I mean a lock-up Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because, if there were drugs around, she'd find them and use them. She finally had a lightbulb moment and decided to straighten out. She was living with her straight brother at the time (we'd had to throw her out), but she didn't have to stay with him or follow his rules. She could have run away and she chose to clean up her act. Almost four years later, she is still straight. She was at least as messed up with drugs as your son. She even shot up heroin once. She used cocaine. You name it. If she could have a lightbulb go off in her brain, and settle into a normal life, any kid can, including yours. Do what your gut tells you to do, but don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work. At his age, it's 90% *his* choice. He's almost a man. Scary, I know. Hugs to you! (PS--In our house we didn't smoke or drink, so that isn't always a deterrent either)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 50754, member: 1550"] Hi. Sometimes I think the brilliant, clueless kids may have undiagnosed Aspergers (brilliant academically/no life skills). My daughter was not gifted in any way--she had some Learning Disability (LD)'s with an average IQ, but she took every drug that exists. By age 16 she was taking her window out of her room and climbing out of the house to run on the streets with her druggie friends. I'm convinced that, at that age, there is no "right" or "wrong" thing to do. It's different for each kid, and these almost adults will do what they want to do, unless they are locked up. My daughter was on parole twice, and that didn't stop her from doing drugs. She was a great liar, but really dumb about her drug use. We found ashes and bits of pot in her room all the time. It was neverending. I wish I had good advice. If I hadn't been so clueless myself, and not realized she was doing a lot more than pot, I would have probably put her in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) just to get her away from her "friends" (I use the word loosely here). And I mean a lock-up Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because, if there were drugs around, she'd find them and use them. She finally had a lightbulb moment and decided to straighten out. She was living with her straight brother at the time (we'd had to throw her out), but she didn't have to stay with him or follow his rules. She could have run away and she chose to clean up her act. Almost four years later, she is still straight. She was at least as messed up with drugs as your son. She even shot up heroin once. She used cocaine. You name it. If she could have a lightbulb go off in her brain, and settle into a normal life, any kid can, including yours. Do what your gut tells you to do, but don't beat yourself up if it doesn't work. At his age, it's 90% *his* choice. He's almost a man. Scary, I know. Hugs to you! (PS--In our house we didn't smoke or drink, so that isn't always a deterrent either) [/QUOTE]
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