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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 72278"><p>I sooooooo understand what you're saying. I would get to that point and I would yell and difficult child would cover her ears, look scared and scream louder...which up to that point I hadn't thought possible. She melted down almost exactly like what you describe with Tink. I HAD to disengage...for her and for me. It scared her when I lost control and yelled, it made the situation worse and the physical reaction I had (heart racing, breathing hard and fast, filling sick to my stomach) would take my energy for the rest of the day.</p><p></p><p>When she melted down she had to go to her room. When she was younger and wouldn't go (she would purposely go limp as a noodle), I would carry her to her room. Sometimes I had to hold the door shut. Eventually, I didn't have to do that anymore and now she goes to her room when I tell her. Once I did get her to her room, I completely disengaged. Wasn't easy. With all the doors and windows closed I could hear her at the mailbox at the street. I would call someone. It didn't matter what we talked about, it was just a distraction. I would sit on the porch or turn on the tv...anything to distract my attention from my screaming, raging kid. </p><p></p><p>I don't even try to talk to her when she's in that state. It does no good. She's not in a rational state, so nothing I say is going to get through or make any sense. Once she has it out of her system, we talk.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 72278"] I sooooooo understand what you're saying. I would get to that point and I would yell and difficult child would cover her ears, look scared and scream louder...which up to that point I hadn't thought possible. She melted down almost exactly like what you describe with Tink. I HAD to disengage...for her and for me. It scared her when I lost control and yelled, it made the situation worse and the physical reaction I had (heart racing, breathing hard and fast, filling sick to my stomach) would take my energy for the rest of the day. When she melted down she had to go to her room. When she was younger and wouldn't go (she would purposely go limp as a noodle), I would carry her to her room. Sometimes I had to hold the door shut. Eventually, I didn't have to do that anymore and now she goes to her room when I tell her. Once I did get her to her room, I completely disengaged. Wasn't easy. With all the doors and windows closed I could hear her at the mailbox at the street. I would call someone. It didn't matter what we talked about, it was just a distraction. I would sit on the porch or turn on the tv...anything to distract my attention from my screaming, raging kid. I don't even try to talk to her when she's in that state. It does no good. She's not in a rational state, so nothing I say is going to get through or make any sense. Once she has it out of her system, we talk. [/QUOTE]
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