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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 72363" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>It IS hard. You want to do whatever you can to make the tantrum stop, but so many of the strategies that we think will work, make things worse over time.</p><p></p><p>When we used to try everything with my difficult child to get his tantrums to stop, he realized that he could use it as a tool to get his way. Like so many difficult children, he can be incredibly perceptive and manipulative.</p><p></p><p>He even started threatening, if you don't &lt;whatever he was demanding&gt; I will "go berserko" (his term for his meltdowns), which really did open my eyes. From that day on, I stopped trying to make it better. Now, the minute the tantrum starts, I make eye contact, stand facing him, and point, straight-arm, down the hall to his room. He will mouth off and argue, but he goes in. (I guess he knows that, even though he's 6'4 and I'm 5'2, I WILL find a way to get him there if he doesn't go volutarily)</p><p></p><p>By not talking, I rul less risk of falling into the trap of fighting back. The gesture is very clear...difficult child knows exactly what it means, so there's nothing to argue against.</p><p></p><p>It has helped a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 72363, member: 3907"] It IS hard. You want to do whatever you can to make the tantrum stop, but so many of the strategies that we think will work, make things worse over time. When we used to try everything with my difficult child to get his tantrums to stop, he realized that he could use it as a tool to get his way. Like so many difficult children, he can be incredibly perceptive and manipulative. He even started threatening, if you don't <whatever he was demanding> I will "go berserko" (his term for his meltdowns), which really did open my eyes. From that day on, I stopped trying to make it better. Now, the minute the tantrum starts, I make eye contact, stand facing him, and point, straight-arm, down the hall to his room. He will mouth off and argue, but he goes in. (I guess he knows that, even though he's 6'4 and I'm 5'2, I WILL find a way to get him there if he doesn't go volutarily) By not talking, I rul less risk of falling into the trap of fighting back. The gesture is very clear...difficult child knows exactly what it means, so there's nothing to argue against. It has helped a lot. [/QUOTE]
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