If I only had to deal with my difficult child's, my life would be half as stressful. Unfortunately, I'm in a bind where I still have to try to work with a person that I decided I no longer wanted to be married to, whom I no longer trust to do right by his kids or me, and whose judgement I am beginning to question. And, this person controls all the money (we are divorced but assets are tied up in legal limbo pending his appeal). I am at the point where I am ready to call my attorney and ask him to amend our custody plan to allow him to have full legal, not just primary physical, custody of our son, age 16, since I have no way of influencing my ex's decisions on how our son is educated or treated for his dual diagnosis problems. I don't want to be held responsible by the state for my ex's bad decisions. I think this is a just a rant right now, I'm not sure if my lawyer would even consider doing anything like this. I'm just so frustrated and in tears from watching my kid slide down the tubes. He's been home from a diagnostic program in PA for nearly three months now and is only getting two hours of tutoring a day and has the rest of the time unsupervised (no job, no car, no money) to hang out at home and go on the computer or hang with some friends while he falls further and further behind his peers. This is a smart kid with a high IQ who wants to be a marine biologist, but he's also quite happy being a slacker. I went through a similar sitch with our older child, a difficult child who is going to be 19 on Sunday. She is starting to get her act together, has been working full time in her dad's accounting office, plans to go back to community college, just generally growing up after a couple of very rough years (on her way to transitioning from difficult child to easy child!). Maybe I'm getting all worked up over a situation that will resolve itself. Don't know anymore. Calgon, take me away....!!