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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675933" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Frieda, welcome.</p><p></p><p>I thought about it briefly. Mostly around health issues. My son, now 27, has a chronic illness that requires treatment and he is minimally treatment compliant. He is also mentally ill.</p><p></p><p>I struggled with my fear he will die, without treatment. I also had a hard time because he seemed to be without money after mid-month when his SSI ran out. And thus without food. We went so far as to go to the social security office, and he requested that I become his payee. They refused saying their preference as recipients manage their own money. </p><p></p><p>These are my thoughts ten months later. </p><p></p><p>In the past year my son was homeless. He lived marginally. He couch-surfed. He became desperate and disorganized. But he survived. He is learning. He must learn or live in a protected status. </p><p></p><p>I came to accept that I had no place in that. It is between him and whatever county he is living in. </p><p></p><p>Had I accepted responsibility for him, there would have been no learning and no acceptance of his limitations. I would always have been the person to fight, to hold responsible. What a horrible life that would have been for each of us. I am glad I came to see that.</p><p></p><p>I accepted that my son may predecease me. That is not a thought that I like. But I have come to accept that as one possibility. I realize it was always a possibility. I can never govern my son one hundred percent. </p><p></p><p>There is also the liability that comes from guardianship. I thought about that, too.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you are here. Keep posting. It helps. Take care.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675933, member: 18958"] Frieda, welcome. I thought about it briefly. Mostly around health issues. My son, now 27, has a chronic illness that requires treatment and he is minimally treatment compliant. He is also mentally ill. I struggled with my fear he will die, without treatment. I also had a hard time because he seemed to be without money after mid-month when his SSI ran out. And thus without food. We went so far as to go to the social security office, and he requested that I become his payee. They refused saying their preference as recipients manage their own money. These are my thoughts ten months later. In the past year my son was homeless. He lived marginally. He couch-surfed. He became desperate and disorganized. But he survived. He is learning. He must learn or live in a protected status. I came to accept that I had no place in that. It is between him and whatever county he is living in. Had I accepted responsibility for him, there would have been no learning and no acceptance of his limitations. I would always have been the person to fight, to hold responsible. What a horrible life that would have been for each of us. I am glad I came to see that. I accepted that my son may predecease me. That is not a thought that I like. But I have come to accept that as one possibility. I realize it was always a possibility. I can never govern my son one hundred percent. There is also the liability that comes from guardianship. I thought about that, too. I am glad you are here. Keep posting. It helps. Take care. COPA [/QUOTE]
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