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Anyone have guardianship for their Difficult Child?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 675941" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My twenty-two year old son is NOT difficult, but he is on the autism spectrum and needs a bit of help in his adulthood. I think it is a good idea for any parent with a child on the spectrum at all to get legal guardianship, although with a difficult child I'm not sure he'll listen to you. My son doesn't have many rules from me and is really thriving on his own and my biggest responsibility for him is that I'm his payee (he has no idea how to hang onto money). The thing is, he is compliant with the arrangement and not at all unhappy with me. I don't really interfere with his life, but I can help him in medical crises and other things he'd otherwise be unable to figure out on his own (or be afraid to act on). </p><p></p><p>It is a good idea to plan get the guardianship and services BEFORE he graduates so you have a plan. I don't feel all adults can make it on their own completely. Some need a lot of help (Downs Syndrome, for example), some need less help but still need us to help them in difficult situations (autism). </p><p></p><p>I had no trouble at all getting guardianship. It was fast and one court date. My hubby and son came with and it was pretty easy as son had already been labeled as disabled. He is actually much more "abled" than many young adults who do not have autism and have substance abuse problems, and is about 98% independent and lives in his own apartment. We pay th e rent out of his SSI and the money he makes at a part time job and he's a pretty happy guy. </p><p></p><p>Every child is different. Every adult is different. You know your son best. </p><p></p><p>I am not that familiar with guardianship laws because it was so easy for us. I may drop t he guardianship one day as he doesn't seem to need it. The payee part...that he will need for the rest of his life. When we are gone, one will be appointed to help him with money.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 675941, member: 1550"] My twenty-two year old son is NOT difficult, but he is on the autism spectrum and needs a bit of help in his adulthood. I think it is a good idea for any parent with a child on the spectrum at all to get legal guardianship, although with a difficult child I'm not sure he'll listen to you. My son doesn't have many rules from me and is really thriving on his own and my biggest responsibility for him is that I'm his payee (he has no idea how to hang onto money). The thing is, he is compliant with the arrangement and not at all unhappy with me. I don't really interfere with his life, but I can help him in medical crises and other things he'd otherwise be unable to figure out on his own (or be afraid to act on). It is a good idea to plan get the guardianship and services BEFORE he graduates so you have a plan. I don't feel all adults can make it on their own completely. Some need a lot of help (Downs Syndrome, for example), some need less help but still need us to help them in difficult situations (autism). I had no trouble at all getting guardianship. It was fast and one court date. My hubby and son came with and it was pretty easy as son had already been labeled as disabled. He is actually much more "abled" than many young adults who do not have autism and have substance abuse problems, and is about 98% independent and lives in his own apartment. We pay th e rent out of his SSI and the money he makes at a part time job and he's a pretty happy guy. Every child is different. Every adult is different. You know your son best. I am not that familiar with guardianship laws because it was so easy for us. I may drop t he guardianship one day as he doesn't seem to need it. The payee part...that he will need for the rest of his life. When we are gone, one will be appointed to help him with money. Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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