Apathy vs new job/new house/new city

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Steely, Dec 28, 2008.

  1. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    I am wrestling with ~
    Apathy vs new job/new house/new city
    I know, huge.:faint:

    Toto, your sig inspired me. I love it, as it is how I feel today.
    A vague and constant desire for something that does not exist, for something other than the present, a turning toward the past or toward the future, not an active discontent or poignant sadness but an indolent dreaming wistfulness...
    "Forlorn Hope"

    I have always wanted to move out of Dallas. Dallas bites. There is nothing to do here. Period. Unless you like cement, and shopping.

    I have stayed all these years for various reasons, but now all those reasons are gone. Poof. Evaporated. I can either continue to exist here with mild apathy - or jump off the big cliff of life.

    I don't like my job, I need a new one.
    difficult child is far away, and will be for awhile.
    I have about 3 friends in this whole city.
    And I have a nice profit coming when I sell this house.

    So ~ what is the answer to swimming in forlorn hope? Action.

    So where should I move? I need mountains, but nothing too snowy. AZ, NM, CO, UT? Or SE Oregon?

    I also need hot & available, but sage and loving single men who love the out of doors.

    And I need a new job, which I guess needs to come first.

    And I would need a house with a big yard for my 3 furbabies.


    This feels like a craigs list ad:tongue: Sorry.
  2. Jena

    Jena New Member

    Steely you are so funny...

    I think this is great and just reading your post im totally excited for you!! I say go, go go!!! Somewhere peaceful yet not too peaceful.

    I'm not sure i understood the warm thing, do you need your seasons???

    totally exciting truly. hows' the market real estate market by you now?
  3. Jena

    Jena New Member

    What about Arizona???
  4. 1905

    1905 Well-Known Member

    Since the job is first, you need one that has benefits. What about Atlantic City, NJ? There are lots of casino jobs. Even the maids make a living wage and have benefits. Not that you'll be a maid, but you don't need a ton of education to make good money. Now, you'll have to live about 20 minutes away for a good neighborhood- off the island. The house next door to me is for sale!

    It sounds like you're in desperare need of a fresh start. You can do anything, truly. -Alyssa
  5. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Go. You need a change! You need new people, new friends, new job, new life....GO! Do it for yourself!
  6. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    AZ is actually at the top of my list if there are jobs. Plenty of out of doors stuff, and not too snowy. (I love the snow, but not 10 feet of it, if you know what I mean.)
    And look Jen, a whole website of hot men there.:tongue:
    Toto and Abbey you wanna weigh in here on AZ?

    No, in all seriousness the job has to come first, with benefits. I know. And the real estate market is in the crapper, so.........who knows if I could sell my house.
    God, I get discouraged easily. See how that apathy creeps in and absorbs the life out of me?:ashamed:

    For the first time in my life, I have gotta take action for me. Just me. My whole life has been about someone else, never me. This would be venturing out to seek MY life.
  7. Jena

    Jena New Member

    listen don't get discouraged, that's just your unsurity talking. go look on the websites for arizona employement/classified section and start emailing those resumes....... :)

    Call a realtor and have them come do a walk thru of the house and see what they think. once you get the ball rolling a little you'll start to feed the need and the excitement will grow. :) i'm excited for you and hot men too, what more could you want?? LOL
  8. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    So far I love it here!!! But what do I know???
    I have yet to explore the northern parts...
    I know the men love the outdoors here! Hiking is number 1 second only to biking... well maybe number 1 is horses!
    I honestly do not know much about the jobs right now?
    We are a University town so... I know there are lots of Health Care jobs, Military and of course Education.
    Tons of Artists... I suspect a writer would and could do well if they found the right niche. Bisbee is a thriving artist community as well as Tubac.
    Tucson is cool because there is every type of person here and they all seem to be welcome.
    I supposedly live in the somewhat upper middle class area. I show up at school not showered, hair in pigtails, cup of coffee in one hand (with a saying like "Do I look like I give a rat's :censored2:?") and a Support Bipolar t-shirt...
    no dirty looks, lots of smile and Hello's...
    Principal rides a big ol' motorcycle...
    People drive to school on ATV's.
    Horses everywhere.
    So the only reason I think this is upper middle class is because some of the houses in the hills are VERY nice...
    The people are so different everywhere, but I have met so many nice people of all ages!
    Not very narrow minded yet!
    No humidity, sure it gets hot... but I am looking at snow in the mountains right now and in the hight of the summer you can drive less than 1 hour and you are at the top of Mt. Lemmon and it is pine trees and about 20-30 degrees cooler and creeks and rivers!!! And you can ski there a couple times a year if you want!
    I don't know what the answers are, but sometimes you just gotta say, ***!!!

    by the way: I found that quote in a Tucson mag, it is anonymous and it was about wines, it is on a wine label....
    I loved it and thought it hit the nail on the head for me so often. For so many of us.
  9. Andy

    Andy Active Member

    List your house and find a new job. Hopefully the house will sell at the same time that awesome new job offer pops up!

    I feel like I am going on that adventure with you and we haven't even started!

    The house next door to me is also up for sale, but alas, no jobs and lots of cold and snow - I doubt you want to be my neighbor even though the people who own it say the hardest part about moving is loosing us as neighbors. I will try not to take it personally! :tongue:
  10. ML

    ML Guest

    Go for it! Colorado is nice too. I'd start sending out resumes and apps as sort of fishing expeditition and see what bites. I'd love to have you here.
  11. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    I say jump....it's time. You never know what will happen out there if you don't try. You've everything to gain and nothing to lose at this point. Pick somewhere that speaks to your heart. It's time.
  12. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Yes..........it is time. I totally agree.

    I am gonna do it, as long as I can post & get encouragement from my family?

    Yea, maybe I just need to start the ball rolling by getting a Realtor out here........ that will fuel my fire.
    And tomorrow I will start exploring Craigs List for job ads.........
    (no Jen, as much as I want to, I will leave the hot men for later.:tongue:)
    Maybe I need to get a head hunter for careers, or pursue Monster.

    I just need an environment where people like to hike, ski, and embrace the out of doors -
    In conjunction with a happy job, where people like to embrace each others strengths. And maybe a place where I can finish my book.

    Toto, off a bottle of wine? Now that says it all. I might have to adopt that as "mine".
  13. Jena

    Jena New Member

    another idea is ask toto for the chamber of commerce in the towns in which you are interested to see if they are hiring at all. Those are usually good any town jobs, benefits, decent pay etc.

    Hot men will wait and always be there lol. Maybe there's more in arizona........and hey riding a white horse?? LOL
  14. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Have you looked at the Appalachia area---particularly Boone and that area. The south is laid back, nice, and the people, well, their are cordial and welcoming. I love the Boone area, nice resort market, cultural, without the big city stuff.
  15. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Just want to say I think this is a great idea. I've always lived in Wisconsin (too much snow here for you-for that matter for me too) so I have no advice to offer as to where but I think the change would be very good for you.
  16. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    Three words: GO FOR IT.

    There are all types of ways you can job hunt in different areas....Monster, Careerbuilder, Hot jobs. Also....usajobs.com

    I wouldn't necessarily stay away from employment ads on craigslist but be wary. When I was job hunting, I rarely came across any that really sounded legit. Most of them had a bit of a hinky feel to them.
  17. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    After reading many threads of yours= I think you will find and do what is right for you- i COULDN'T BLAME YOU A BIT!!!!
  18. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I think this will be a great step for you, Steely. Have you considered Central CA? We have mountains and lakes close by, we're about three hours from the Bay Area, 3 - 4 hours from the coast, housing prices are reasonable, decent weather with no shoveling involved...
  19. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Apathy? Where's the apathy? You've got my heart going pitter-patter. I love the mountains and outdoors and am tired of the area I live in and .... and ... a bottle of wine is nice, too. :)
    What sort of work do you do? Are there your type of jobs in AZ? This is so awesome! You can really do it!
    I'm sending loads of fairy dust and luck and excitement and just a smidgen of cool headedness so you can pull it all off. :)