Hi Everyone, So we have an ARD coming up next Friday. I'm worried because my daughter who was traumatized last November by her brother has just gone totally downhill both academically and behaviorally the last 3 years due to the stress of living with him. She used to be labeled GT in Elementary school but when we switched her to a private school in 5th grade, her grades started slipping and she never recovered from the change in schools. She's back in public school now as of this year. She's on a transfer. Her grades were getting better the first grading period but after she was traumatized, she began to fail. The team of teachers referred her for Special Education. because they really thought something was wrong with her. We just got the results and she didn't qualify. I could have told them that was going to happen. Shockingly her results came back as LOW IQ! My husband and I don't buy that and neither does her therapist nor her psychiatrist. She was just assessed in 5th grade by a different doctor and her IQ was quite normal and even a little above average in a few areas. Overall, she was average. This is alarming. I have read an article that stress can lower a child's IQ and that this can be corrected but I think they should not have subjected my daughter to these kinds of tests under the circumstances. She has had days of walking around in a "fog-like state" etc. since the incident. I'm not going to type it right now. I'm not up to it. Many of you can guess for yourselves what went on. Just think of the worst thing imaginable a brother could do to his sister...violently. The school knows too! How could they test her knowing she's dealing with this??? Also, she's on probation. One more violation of the school rules and her transfer will not be renewed. We are stressed out about this. My husband works there and it's such a comfort to my daughter to have him in the building. She will be totally lost to have to go to a school without one of us around. She is just not in a good place right now to have to deal with that and we cannot financially stay home with her all day (homeschool). We also cannot afford one of those fancy $20,000 a year schools where there are super small groups for these types of kids. they have a couple of really cool schools like that in our large city but we just can't afford them nor do we qualify for for financial aid. We're one of those catch 22 families income-wise. We make decent incomes but we both work, and my husband is in night school and we also have legal fees now because of the incident plus out-of-pocket medical expenses due to our daughter's special needs. Even if we could afford it, I've heard there are waiting lists to get in. Advice?