I would RUN FAST from any doctor who thought that any body part should be automatically removed with the exception of trimming overly long fingernails/toenails. Esp in this day and age. That doctor's thinking was what they thought in the 60's and 7-'s and NO responsible doctor thinks that way or tells a patient that.
Now I did have a total hysterectomy. partials are far more common these days, but I had really messed up ovaries, a fallopian tube that tried to tie itself in a knot (doctor only found this after he got it out - no one has a clue why and he hadn't ever seen one before) and my uterus was literally falling out because the doctor who delivered Wiz did not deal with ANY of the tearing/overstretching caused by a child who's head is larger than 99.9% of all newborns. In fact, Wiz should have been monitored for hydrocephaly but no one even bothered to look for it even though his head was ginormous. the doctor who delivered J and T (different docs due to a move and the retirement of one doctor), was appalled when he went to deliver J - said that Wiz should have been a c-section because it tore me stem to stern and no repairs or effort to make repairs was made at the time - and when he got the medical records from the hospital and the OB, he was furious with the doctor. It was that bad.
I did a LOT of research before it was done. Most sites online said docs were basically spaying women because they could not be bothered to treat their problems. While it may be true in some areas, the ONLY people I found advocating hysterectomies were women who had them and had a huge improvement in the quality of life after surgery. I am one of them. I had so many period problems, in almost every part of my body not just the uterus/ovaries - a week of intestinal cramping so bad I couldn't walk sometimes, mood swings that made me the nastiest witch you could find, migraines that made me want to kill myself - they made me seriously suicidal because they were so intense and vicious and could last twelve hours or ten days at that level.
For me, it was amazing - I no longer only had a life three weeks out of the month. I no longer spent one week a month snapping at people and the next one being meaner than a snake. I helped wtih a lot of the IBS problems, it helped with the migraines. It was like someone finally gave me a life, a full life that I could live every day, not just 3/4 of the time.
That being said, there is NO WAY that ANY doctor who said all women should have hysterectomies would even get close enough to me to use a stethoscope, much less a speculum. No. Way.
I do think they are a better choice than ablation, largely because I still talk to quite a few women who have ablation done and within a couple of years are back wehre they started. Unless they have changed the way it is done in the last year or two, that wouldn't be something I recommended to my daughter. I would want a doctor to discuss that option with her though, just as I would expect a complete discussion of every option available.
We are not dogs or cats. For the most part, people are capable of caring for their young, and so far t isn't a big enough problem that we need to severely limit the population growth. Even if that were to happen due to some global disaster, I would advocate vasectomies rather than hysterectomies. Largely because a vasectomy is nowhere near as major an operation as a hysterectomy.
We were born with a certain set of parts. in my opinion there is a reason for each one of those parts. While we may function well with-o one or more of them, that is no reason to just yank them out. There needs to be a serious problem. Only one of my kids had tonsils removed - thank you had tubes, tonsils and adenoids done all at once. But the infections he was having were interfering with his growth and beginning to cause problems with his speech because he couldn't hear well. The other two had other problems and got those treated.
Surgery should never be treated like no big deal. esp surgery to remove parts of your body.
If you end up having a hysterectomy, whether partial or total, be sure the cervix is removed. It can be left in, but the docs I have spoken with have said that in most or all of the cases where they left the cervix, they had to go in and remove it a few years later (usually less than 5 yrs) and insurance did NOT pay for the second surgery because they said it should have been removed in the first surgery.
I also advocate having them NOT go in through your abdomen - they can go in and remove everything with-o makng an incision in your tummy, and it means a far faster recovery and far less long term problems from having those muscles cut open. In some cases, they start vaginally and then have to switch to the abdominal if they run into some major probelm, but usually you would have had some really hugely major bleeding problems with each period that would have been the reason for the surgery.
Find a new doctor, one who doesn't view you as a stray dog at a shelter to be spayed to keep the doctor from having to actually treat the various problems that you might have. Don't go back to this one.
I hate docs like that - especially female docs. I keep expecting female docs to have a better, more compassionate view of the whole ob/gyn thing. I hope that you can find treatment that really helps and is appropriate. I found aldactone, a potassium sparing diuretic, to be a great help with bloating from periods - I would bloat up anywhere from twenty to thirty pounds each period, then spend three days peeing every ten minutes. the diuretic really helped that.