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<blockquote data-quote="On_Call" data-source="post: 14467" data-attributes="member: 3211"><p>I hate the line "I don't know how you handle it all" from a staff member or well-intended acquaintance during or after a difficult situation/meltdown. I usually just attempt to smile and change the subject. </p><p></p><p>What I'd like to say is "What else would I do??? What would you do???"</p><p></p><p>I suppose they are wondering how it is that we haven't cracked under the pressure, but when it is a constant pressure, you somehow learn to adjust and deal.</p><p></p><p>When I explained recently to difficult child's new psychiatrist that even though we are still having meltdowns and issues with difficult child, this is really his most stable period we've ever had, she just looked at me with "shock and awe" written all over her face. When I went on to tell her (when she asked what we do during a particularly chaotic time frame) that we adjust as a family to difficult child's gfgness, she just sat there. Then, I cried, if you can believe it. Actually saying out loud that we just alter our plans, behind the scenes - and have done so for probably 10 years, was overwhelming - even for me.</p><p></p><p>I repeat a mantra to difficult child - Stop and Think Before You Act or Speak. If only everyone did that, right??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="On_Call, post: 14467, member: 3211"] I hate the line "I don't know how you handle it all" from a staff member or well-intended acquaintance during or after a difficult situation/meltdown. I usually just attempt to smile and change the subject. What I'd like to say is "What else would I do??? What would you do???" I suppose they are wondering how it is that we haven't cracked under the pressure, but when it is a constant pressure, you somehow learn to adjust and deal. When I explained recently to difficult child's new psychiatrist that even though we are still having meltdowns and issues with difficult child, this is really his most stable period we've ever had, she just looked at me with "shock and awe" written all over her face. When I went on to tell her (when she asked what we do during a particularly chaotic time frame) that we adjust as a family to difficult child's gfgness, she just sat there. Then, I cried, if you can believe it. Actually saying out loud that we just alter our plans, behind the scenes - and have done so for probably 10 years, was overwhelming - even for me. I repeat a mantra to difficult child - Stop and Think Before You Act or Speak. If only everyone did that, right?? [/QUOTE]
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