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are there things people say that make you nuts?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 14479" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's important to remember that a lot of the trite comments about our kids is often coming from a position of fear and denial. the family members who love us the most are often the last ones to accept that we might really be suffering here. They'd rather believe that we're just being melodramatic, than accept that there really could be a big problem and they SHOULD feel bad for us. What good does feeling bad for us do for them?</p><p></p><p>And the families who insist "My little Johnny would never do anything like that!" are speaking partly out of fear that they MIGHT have had a problem with little Johnny (and thank goodness they don't) and yes, out of a certain smug "there but for the grace of God go I".</p><p>They also are in denial.</p><p></p><p>The annoying thing about people in denial - they DO change their minds but when they do, they never, ever held a different opinion. So you can't even say, "I told you so!" because their response will be, "Of course you did - right after I told you first. I've always known that little Brenda has X, Y and Z."</p><p></p><p>That's when I'm most tempted to tell them to go take a long walk off a short pier.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 14479, member: 1991"] It's important to remember that a lot of the trite comments about our kids is often coming from a position of fear and denial. the family members who love us the most are often the last ones to accept that we might really be suffering here. They'd rather believe that we're just being melodramatic, than accept that there really could be a big problem and they SHOULD feel bad for us. What good does feeling bad for us do for them? And the families who insist "My little Johnny would never do anything like that!" are speaking partly out of fear that they MIGHT have had a problem with little Johnny (and thank goodness they don't) and yes, out of a certain smug "there but for the grace of God go I". They also are in denial. The annoying thing about people in denial - they DO change their minds but when they do, they never, ever held a different opinion. So you can't even say, "I told you so!" because their response will be, "Of course you did - right after I told you first. I've always known that little Brenda has X, Y and Z." That's when I'm most tempted to tell them to go take a long walk off a short pier. Marg [/QUOTE]
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