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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 50861" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I think it is hard for many of our kids to stop their impulses no matter what is on the line for the future, good or bad. I know my daughter fell into that category. I learned to not make a consequence being a denial of a future event, especially not one I thought I wanted her to go on. Consequences fit the crime and were immediate.</p><p></p><p>That being said, a reasonable and natural consequence for someone sneaking out in the middle of the night would be to not go on a trip where he would not be as well supervised or where he might get into serious trouble considering he doesn't know the territory as well. So, whether a consequence of you do one more thing and you don't go or whether a consequence of you can't be trusted and we can't expect my parents to be police officers to watch you, the consequence of not visiting your parents is a good consequence.</p><p></p><p>Maybe if he has followed the major rules for a month or nearer the end of summer he could then go visit?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 50861, member: 3626"] I think it is hard for many of our kids to stop their impulses no matter what is on the line for the future, good or bad. I know my daughter fell into that category. I learned to not make a consequence being a denial of a future event, especially not one I thought I wanted her to go on. Consequences fit the crime and were immediate. That being said, a reasonable and natural consequence for someone sneaking out in the middle of the night would be to not go on a trip where he would not be as well supervised or where he might get into serious trouble considering he doesn't know the territory as well. So, whether a consequence of you do one more thing and you don't go or whether a consequence of you can't be trusted and we can't expect my parents to be police officers to watch you, the consequence of not visiting your parents is a good consequence. Maybe if he has followed the major rules for a month or nearer the end of summer he could then go visit? [/QUOTE]
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