so I don't explode. She comes here every Wednesday. Since her mom doesn't tell us anything, I check the school website on Wednesday afternoons to know whether to expect her on the bus or not to let the sitter know if she has one or two kids that day. (if she happens to be sick on Wed, we don't get told til she doesn't show up on the bus and I call wondering where she's at...and that's for the birds, so I just check the school website.) So I checked today. It also displays the online grade summary, which I look at but generally ignore. D in math and C in the reading class that was a straight up A last week. So I looked at the grade sheets for those classes. 5 missing assignments in math. 13 total D's or F's on homework, quizzes, and tests in the past 6 weeks. 3 missing assignments in reading from the past week. I had asked easy child last week if she was still doing tutoring and she said she was, so I was a bit perplexed why this horrible drop in grades. So I asked the tutor if easy child had been staying. Tutor spilled her guts and said not only was easy child not staying, she kept saying she was and then not showing, among other displeased things. So talked to husband. Figured we'd better find out if she was going home after school on tutoring nights or staying in town and telling mom she was at tutoring and just running around (like days we took her to school early). So asked mom, and no, she's not been staying, and of course, mom asked why I was asking, so I told her a brief nutshell (no details, I am DONE with this - and she can look if she cares - I was only asking to the extent that this kid might be snowballing everyone and running around town). And her mom comes back with "tell her, if she told the tutor she was staying tomorrow night and doesn't, that she'll be grounded". Gotta love it. Teacher tells you your kid, who has a history of lying to EVERYONE, has lied to her for a MONTH and you say "you're grounded if you do it tomorrow". Gee. And one wonders why she keeps lying....hm. Ponderous. Thanks for listening!