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Argh! Kid is a mess. And very volatile mess for that
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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 660120" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>I understand to some extent. Reading how you dragged the river - or had him gone for two days - I can't even imagine the horror of thinking he was drowned or frozen. Desperation does crazy things to people. In your case, your frantic need to save him turned your relationship with him into a war. You'd keep him safe even if that meant breaking him. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone who doesn't have a Difficult Child, but for us? </p><p></p><p>I have, in the last two years thought more than once that I wish we'd been stricter and punished him harder...I've even wondered if we'd beaten him...really beaten him...would he have been different? Would he have obeyed us if he were afraid of us? I stopped Jabber from ever spanking him again when he accidentally left a bruise on his butt. Spanking is legal...I can't imagine it being outlawed completely! But, there's a big difference between spanking and beating and generally any spanking that leaves a mark is enough to get children's services involved and charges filed. I was spanked. I respected my parents. But every child is different. Spanking didn't do anything to our son. The only think that ever made a difference was taking his things away. Maybe that's why he is materialistic now...or maybe it was just a view of things to come.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 660120, member: 17309"] I understand to some extent. Reading how you dragged the river - or had him gone for two days - I can't even imagine the horror of thinking he was drowned or frozen. Desperation does crazy things to people. In your case, your frantic need to save him turned your relationship with him into a war. You'd keep him safe even if that meant breaking him. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone who doesn't have a Difficult Child, but for us? I have, in the last two years thought more than once that I wish we'd been stricter and punished him harder...I've even wondered if we'd beaten him...really beaten him...would he have been different? Would he have obeyed us if he were afraid of us? I stopped Jabber from ever spanking him again when he accidentally left a bruise on his butt. Spanking is legal...I can't imagine it being outlawed completely! But, there's a big difference between spanking and beating and generally any spanking that leaves a mark is enough to get children's services involved and charges filed. I was spanked. I respected my parents. But every child is different. Spanking didn't do anything to our son. The only think that ever made a difference was taking his things away. Maybe that's why he is materialistic now...or maybe it was just a view of things to come. [/QUOTE]
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