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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 622920" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hey...did his birthmother drink when she was pregnant with your son? If so, he could be suffering from poor functioning due to alcohol or drug effects before birth...fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. And she may have suffered from the same thing if HER birthmother drank while pregnant. It's not unusual for this to be generational. My autistic son's birthmother was a drug abuser. He tested positive for crack at birth. We were lucky with him...he just has high functioning autism and is a really good young man. Maybe his birthmother was a good person, but so poor and desperate that she was a slave to her drugs. I don't know. He was her fifth child and Grandma had custody of the other four, but she did not feel capable of raising another child. My son, who I call Sonic, did not have chaotic early years though...he had one very good foster parent who was schooled in medical foster care...see, Sonic had open heart surgery as an infant. His cardiologist said the surgery was done so well that his heart isn't even a concern. Sonic is not one of my children that I angst over.</p><p></p><p>I have one ex-son we adopted from Hong Kong. I call him an ex-son because in no way will he have anything to do with anybody except my ex-husband and my ex-husband had to wait a long time to get that contact from him. That particular child is brilliant and successful, but always felt very inferior because he had spent six years in an orphanage and he felt money was the key to gaining status. He has plenty of money, but he wants more thus he will talk to my ex who inherited some money when his mother passed away. This child does not want to miss out on that money, no way, no how. When that adult child met his wife, he changed quickly and no longer hung around with anyone but her family and other people who were Chinese. He dumped ex too, as I said, for a while. I did grieve the loss of him in my life as I loved him as much as any of my children and would have died for him easily. It has now been six years though and time is a great healer. But I did have to grieve.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I am rattling on. Just wanted you to know I understand, and that your son may have brain damage due to alcohol-before-birth. Although nobody can prove it, the neurologists who saw Sonic believe that his birthmother's drug use and drinking contributed to his autistic spectrum disorder. It is common for the offspring of those who indulge while pregnant to have forms of autism.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 622920, member: 1550"] Hey...did his birthmother drink when she was pregnant with your son? If so, he could be suffering from poor functioning due to alcohol or drug effects before birth...fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. And she may have suffered from the same thing if HER birthmother drank while pregnant. It's not unusual for this to be generational. My autistic son's birthmother was a drug abuser. He tested positive for crack at birth. We were lucky with him...he just has high functioning autism and is a really good young man. Maybe his birthmother was a good person, but so poor and desperate that she was a slave to her drugs. I don't know. He was her fifth child and Grandma had custody of the other four, but she did not feel capable of raising another child. My son, who I call Sonic, did not have chaotic early years though...he had one very good foster parent who was schooled in medical foster care...see, Sonic had open heart surgery as an infant. His cardiologist said the surgery was done so well that his heart isn't even a concern. Sonic is not one of my children that I angst over. I have one ex-son we adopted from Hong Kong. I call him an ex-son because in no way will he have anything to do with anybody except my ex-husband and my ex-husband had to wait a long time to get that contact from him. That particular child is brilliant and successful, but always felt very inferior because he had spent six years in an orphanage and he felt money was the key to gaining status. He has plenty of money, but he wants more thus he will talk to my ex who inherited some money when his mother passed away. This child does not want to miss out on that money, no way, no how. When that adult child met his wife, he changed quickly and no longer hung around with anyone but her family and other people who were Chinese. He dumped ex too, as I said, for a while. I did grieve the loss of him in my life as I loved him as much as any of my children and would have died for him easily. It has now been six years though and time is a great healer. But I did have to grieve. Anyway, I am rattling on. Just wanted you to know I understand, and that your son may have brain damage due to alcohol-before-birth. Although nobody can prove it, the neurologists who saw Sonic believe that his birthmother's drug use and drinking contributed to his autistic spectrum disorder. It is common for the offspring of those who indulge while pregnant to have forms of autism. [/QUOTE]
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