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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 759961" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>What you are doing is detaching. That does not mean you don't see him. It means you stay out of his business, including mistakes, and don't tell him what to do or help him fix himself because you can't. I've learned from addicts that recovery is veri personal and that it is not.posdible to share the hard work. We can support it but not help him do it like we helped with homework (we could help with homework and see results). It was soooo easy back then.</p><p></p><p>Some of us barely see our kids because they don't want to see us a lot and some not at all. We can't help that. Some of us don't see them at all or much because we can't deal with their presence. I am much better.not having to deal with a rude adult child who we have done so much for because we love her. We have both been happier with her far away. The rudeness and abuse hurts so much and it angers our other kids and is a bad example for our grands to see. Addiction is a family disease so we all cope the best we can. None of this is your fault. It's hard not to think it is on us, but they are hitting.middle age. These are their choices. Even mental illness is treatable. in my opinion rudeness that we all deal with is a definite choice. Our kids are.not psychotic nor are they rude to everyone. We are the target of their bad life choiced but they COULD control the rudeness. They just don't. And the only time my daughter has ever apologized for the abuse was when she also hit us up for something. It's heartbreaking really. But we have to survive the best way we can.</p><p></p><p>This is a hard path and we all make our own decisions on how to deal with it. Nothing in my opinion is right or wrong.</p><p></p><p>Please take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 759961, member: 23706"] What you are doing is detaching. That does not mean you don't see him. It means you stay out of his business, including mistakes, and don't tell him what to do or help him fix himself because you can't. I've learned from addicts that recovery is veri personal and that it is not.posdible to share the hard work. We can support it but not help him do it like we helped with homework (we could help with homework and see results). It was soooo easy back then. Some of us barely see our kids because they don't want to see us a lot and some not at all. We can't help that. Some of us don't see them at all or much because we can't deal with their presence. I am much better.not having to deal with a rude adult child who we have done so much for because we love her. We have both been happier with her far away. The rudeness and abuse hurts so much and it angers our other kids and is a bad example for our grands to see. Addiction is a family disease so we all cope the best we can. None of this is your fault. It's hard not to think it is on us, but they are hitting.middle age. These are their choices. Even mental illness is treatable. in my opinion rudeness that we all deal with is a definite choice. Our kids are.not psychotic nor are they rude to everyone. We are the target of their bad life choiced but they COULD control the rudeness. They just don't. And the only time my daughter has ever apologized for the abuse was when she also hit us up for something. It's heartbreaking really. But we have to survive the best way we can. This is a hard path and we all make our own decisions on how to deal with it. Nothing in my opinion is right or wrong. Please take care. [/QUOTE]
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