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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 647742" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>There is not a way for you to change this for him, Lucy.</p><p></p><p>The truth is that you know for sure only what you have always known, about this son. One way or another, he will contact you again in his own time. It was disrespectful of him not to set your mind at ease, even if he had to lie to you to do it. </p><p></p><p>Even if he had to lie to you. You are his mother. He could have loved you enough to set your heart at ease...but he chose not to. </p><p></p><p>Why would he do that?</p><p></p><p>We do know our difficult child kids can be manipulative, and that they seem to take pleasure sometimes in worrying us needlessly.</p><p></p><p>My daughter seems to like to do that. She will say or do or show me things that strip me of every defense. I don't know why she does that. When it happens, I am too shocked and broken to remember that she is, or could be, playing a game. Maybe she is playing that game out of meanness, but maybe, she is just playing that game because that is who she is.</p><p></p><p>It is up to me to remember this about my child, and then, set about setting myself back on my own feet.</p><p></p><p>But there is that little shiver of horror at what was seen, at what was known, at what that might mean. But until we know a thing to be true? We have a moment's grace. That is a small comfort, but I have been in places too where small comfort is the best thing, is a place of balance.</p><p></p><p>Until we know, for sure.</p><p></p><p>I don't know which of us it is who tells us she prays white light around her child and offers her hope and her love and her protection up to God. There are no atheists in foxholes and I have done this, myself.</p><p></p><p>It gets to be about surviving it.</p><p></p><p>Here we all are with you too Lucy, as you come through this. Together, we are all a little stronger and so, we heal from it.</p><p></p><p>Holding you in my thoughts, Lucy.</p><p></p><p>I have been where you are. I am so sorry for the pain and confusion and fear of it. Even if the worse thing is true, you will incorporate and come through it.</p><p></p><p>You have no other choice.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 647742, member: 17461"] There is not a way for you to change this for him, Lucy. The truth is that you know for sure only what you have always known, about this son. One way or another, he will contact you again in his own time. It was disrespectful of him not to set your mind at ease, even if he had to lie to you to do it. Even if he had to lie to you. You are his mother. He could have loved you enough to set your heart at ease...but he chose not to. Why would he do that? We do know our difficult child kids can be manipulative, and that they seem to take pleasure sometimes in worrying us needlessly. My daughter seems to like to do that. She will say or do or show me things that strip me of every defense. I don't know why she does that. When it happens, I am too shocked and broken to remember that she is, or could be, playing a game. Maybe she is playing that game out of meanness, but maybe, she is just playing that game because that is who she is. It is up to me to remember this about my child, and then, set about setting myself back on my own feet. But there is that little shiver of horror at what was seen, at what was known, at what that might mean. But until we know a thing to be true? We have a moment's grace. That is a small comfort, but I have been in places too where small comfort is the best thing, is a place of balance. Until we know, for sure. I don't know which of us it is who tells us she prays white light around her child and offers her hope and her love and her protection up to God. There are no atheists in foxholes and I have done this, myself. It gets to be about surviving it. Here we all are with you too Lucy, as you come through this. Together, we are all a little stronger and so, we heal from it. Holding you in my thoughts, Lucy. I have been where you are. I am so sorry for the pain and confusion and fear of it. Even if the worse thing is true, you will incorporate and come through it. You have no other choice. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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