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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 647779" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh Lucy, I am sorry. Not knowing leaves us with all our parental fears for them........and a lot of the time, it ends up being just that, our fears for them, while they simply go and live their lives.........you don't know what he is up to, he may not have purposely ignored you, I think some of them are wired differently and don't connect in the same ways, I'm not sure there is always a malicious intent. But, whether there is or not, you are still feeling all of that fear........</p><p></p><p>I know how you feel. My daughter periodically disappears and goes no contact. It's tough on us. What I do is start observing my fear thoughts.........once they are identified, once we see the catastrophizing we do, it's a little easier to switch our thinking over to something other than fear. There is nothing you can do now, your choices are limited. What you can do is reign in your fear thoughts in whatever way works for you. Use your "tool box" and get the support you need, do very kind things for yourself, talk yourself down off the cliff and do normal every day things to engage your mind in other things. If you have any kind of a practice like yoga, meditation, tai chi, deep breathing, taking a brisk walk, whatever can calm the mind, then do it. When I was in the throes of that fear, and let's say it was the middle of the night........I would go onto Youtube and search relaxation meditations..........put on earphones and allow the peace to return to my weary brain. </p><p></p><p>You can push that fear away from having it take you over. It's not always easy to do, but believe me, when I was there, I would have stood on my head and spit wooden nickels if I thought that would get my thoughts out of fear...........use all your resources.........and if you have to keep using them for a week, then do it. </p><p></p><p>It will shift Lucy, it always does. You'll return to normal reality and the fear will subside. In the meantime, do whatever it takes to clear you mind of those thoughts and breathe in peace............many hugs to you Lucy..........we're all been there............we're here for you......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 647779, member: 13542"] Oh Lucy, I am sorry. Not knowing leaves us with all our parental fears for them........and a lot of the time, it ends up being just that, our fears for them, while they simply go and live their lives.........you don't know what he is up to, he may not have purposely ignored you, I think some of them are wired differently and don't connect in the same ways, I'm not sure there is always a malicious intent. But, whether there is or not, you are still feeling all of that fear........ I know how you feel. My daughter periodically disappears and goes no contact. It's tough on us. What I do is start observing my fear thoughts.........once they are identified, once we see the catastrophizing we do, it's a little easier to switch our thinking over to something other than fear. There is nothing you can do now, your choices are limited. What you can do is reign in your fear thoughts in whatever way works for you. Use your "tool box" and get the support you need, do very kind things for yourself, talk yourself down off the cliff and do normal every day things to engage your mind in other things. If you have any kind of a practice like yoga, meditation, tai chi, deep breathing, taking a brisk walk, whatever can calm the mind, then do it. When I was in the throes of that fear, and let's say it was the middle of the night........I would go onto Youtube and search relaxation meditations..........put on earphones and allow the peace to return to my weary brain. You can push that fear away from having it take you over. It's not always easy to do, but believe me, when I was there, I would have stood on my head and spit wooden nickels if I thought that would get my thoughts out of fear...........use all your resources.........and if you have to keep using them for a week, then do it. It will shift Lucy, it always does. You'll return to normal reality and the fear will subside. In the meantime, do whatever it takes to clear you mind of those thoughts and breathe in peace............many hugs to you Lucy..........we're all been there............we're here for you...... [/QUOTE]
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