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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 728517" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Hi Don. Welcome. </p><p></p><p>I have only one piece of advice, it is your home so you get to make the rules. End of story. </p><p></p><p>Is she paying rent? Is she buying food? Is she paying the electric bill, the gas bill, the WiFi bill, the TV bill? If not, then she is a GUEST and a guest is someone who visits <em><u>occasionally, </u></em>she doesn't live at your house. This young woman was at your house about 60 hours per week.</p><p></p><p>Our home is generally our sanctuary. And, if we pay all of the bills it is simply OUR HOME. You get to have feelings and you get to insist on what you want. </p><p></p><p>Is your son your roommate, is he paying any bills? Is he contributing to the household? </p><p></p><p>At 24 and 21, if they want to be together 60 hours per week then they need to move into their own dwelling. </p><p></p><p>I hope they give you the space you requested, however, it it slips back, do not permit it, stick with your guns each and every time she steps over your line. Boundaries are necessary and they need to be enforced, otherwise you word means nothing.</p><p></p><p>If she's upset that she can't have her way and be at your house 7 days a week, well......too bad.....she's an adult and as an adult we have to recognize that we don't always get what we want and we don't get to act like a jerk when we don't. She needs to grow up.</p><p></p><p>I hope you get your home back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 728517, member: 13542"] Hi Don. Welcome. I have only one piece of advice, it is your home so you get to make the rules. End of story. Is she paying rent? Is she buying food? Is she paying the electric bill, the gas bill, the WiFi bill, the TV bill? If not, then she is a GUEST and a guest is someone who visits [I][U]occasionally, [/U][/I]she doesn't live at your house. This young woman was at your house about 60 hours per week. Our home is generally our sanctuary. And, if we pay all of the bills it is simply OUR HOME. You get to have feelings and you get to insist on what you want. Is your son your roommate, is he paying any bills? Is he contributing to the household? At 24 and 21, if they want to be together 60 hours per week then they need to move into their own dwelling. I hope they give you the space you requested, however, it it slips back, do not permit it, stick with your guns each and every time she steps over your line. Boundaries are necessary and they need to be enforced, otherwise you word means nothing. If she's upset that she can't have her way and be at your house 7 days a week, well......too bad.....she's an adult and as an adult we have to recognize that we don't always get what we want and we don't get to act like a jerk when we don't. She needs to grow up. I hope you get your home back. [/QUOTE]
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