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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 640416" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>:O)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you have not been able to see your grandchild. It is so much harder when they have lived with us. We fall in love with them so deep, then! It feels like we are betraying them when the parents go away from our homes where we could watch over the babies and keep them safe.</p><p></p><p>It is one of the deepest, most hurtful feelings I know.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry this is happening...but I can tell you that you will be her safe haven, as she grows.</p><p></p><p>My granddaughters are 21 and 15.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>The fault is the mother's.</p><p></p><p>The fault is the father's. </p><p></p><p>You took them in. You did all you know. They even messed that up through their irresponsibility and disrespect for you and your husband. It is probably true that the only way these two adults will get themselves together enough to raise their child is for you to be far away, so they literally have no one to blame, and no one to witness their failures, but themselves.</p><p></p><p>Shame on them both.</p><p></p><p>I am happy you decided to come to Florida! What did husband think about that?</p><p></p><p>Celebration at your house!!!</p><p></p><p>***</p><p></p><p>This was on my FB this morning:</p><p></p><p>"She could never go back and make the details pretty. All she could do was move forward and make the whole beautiful."</p><p></p><p>Terri St Cloud</p><p></p><p>The Gifts of Imperfection</p><p>Brene Brown</p><p></p><p>And here is one more, especially for you and for your husband:</p><p></p><p>"People cry not because the are weak.</p><p>It's because they have been strong for too long."</p><p></p><p>I don't know who said that.</p><p></p><p>Please know that you will have to be very strong to actually make it out of Dodge with husband. Our difficult child children will fight us to keep us providing for them until we are worn out and the chance to live and love and create our own lives, outside of being locked into the role of someone's mother, is gone.</p><p></p><p>As one of our people here, Seeking Strength, always tells us: Stay close to the board, during this time.</p><p></p><p>Together, we can find our way.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 640416, member: 17461"] :O) I am so sorry you have not been able to see your grandchild. It is so much harder when they have lived with us. We fall in love with them so deep, then! It feels like we are betraying them when the parents go away from our homes where we could watch over the babies and keep them safe. It is one of the deepest, most hurtful feelings I know. I'm so sorry this is happening...but I can tell you that you will be her safe haven, as she grows. My granddaughters are 21 and 15. The fault is the mother's. The fault is the father's. You took them in. You did all you know. They even messed that up through their irresponsibility and disrespect for you and your husband. It is probably true that the only way these two adults will get themselves together enough to raise their child is for you to be far away, so they literally have no one to blame, and no one to witness their failures, but themselves. Shame on them both. I am happy you decided to come to Florida! What did husband think about that? Celebration at your house!!! *** This was on my FB this morning: "She could never go back and make the details pretty. All she could do was move forward and make the whole beautiful." Terri St Cloud The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown And here is one more, especially for you and for your husband: "People cry not because the are weak. It's because they have been strong for too long." I don't know who said that. Please know that you will have to be very strong to actually make it out of Dodge with husband. Our difficult child children will fight us to keep us providing for them until we are worn out and the chance to live and love and create our own lives, outside of being locked into the role of someone's mother, is gone. As one of our people here, Seeking Strength, always tells us: Stay close to the board, during this time. Together, we can find our way. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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