Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Asperger's in-person description
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 65793" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Making friends easily doens't mean it can't be Asperger's. It depends on HOW he makes friends. Sometimes a direct, no-nonsense approach can seem refreshing which in fact it's simply lack of inhibition, lack of self-consciousness which often hold 'normal' kids back.</p><p></p><p>An Aspie kid is highly likely to find and befriend other Aspie kids - it's like some sort of mutual; recognition and hey presto! friends for life.</p><p></p><p>Aspies are intensely loyal with friends and very forgiving. yes, they can get angry, but do not want to lose their friends. If a 'friend' is using the friendship to cause trouble, an Aspie mightn't see it and will put up with far more than most people, rather than lose the friendship.</p><p></p><p>I see difficult child 3 walk up to a group of kids and start talking to them. If they talk back and are friendly, then by definition, they are now friends.</p><p></p><p>I've had to scold him about talking to strangers. He simply doesn't understand what strangers are - we have some people living in our street who are, frankly, a concern. Drunken parties, broken glass in the street, rev-heads doing wheelies burning rubber at 2 am - a worry. difficult child 3 was walking past that house and stopped to talk to them. They asked his name, he told them. He said they were no longer strangers because they knew his name.</p><p></p><p>I've seen difficult child 3 hassled and bullied by kids at school. One kid would regularly torment him and get him into trouble. A gang of boys would trip him up as he walked past. But to avoid getting into trouble when the teacher was called, the boys quickly worked out to say to difficult child 3, "I'm sorry I did that. I want to be your friend now. And friends don't tell on each other, do they?"</p><p>So difficult child 3 would refuse to tell the teacher who had tripped him. And later the same day - his 'friend' would hurt him again. And then immediately say, "I'm sorry. We're friends, aren't we?"</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 could never 'get' it. And these kids got a lot of fun at his expense.</p><p></p><p>Similar story with difficult child 1. A lot of his friends are also Aspie, and also very loyal. They are now in their mid-20s, finished school years ago but still very close friends. Always in touch, always visiting each other. Sleepovers when the travelling ones are in town... and all incredibly immature, despite being very smart. They still play dress-ups!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 65793, member: 1991"] Making friends easily doens't mean it can't be Asperger's. It depends on HOW he makes friends. Sometimes a direct, no-nonsense approach can seem refreshing which in fact it's simply lack of inhibition, lack of self-consciousness which often hold 'normal' kids back. An Aspie kid is highly likely to find and befriend other Aspie kids - it's like some sort of mutual; recognition and hey presto! friends for life. Aspies are intensely loyal with friends and very forgiving. yes, they can get angry, but do not want to lose their friends. If a 'friend' is using the friendship to cause trouble, an Aspie mightn't see it and will put up with far more than most people, rather than lose the friendship. I see difficult child 3 walk up to a group of kids and start talking to them. If they talk back and are friendly, then by definition, they are now friends. I've had to scold him about talking to strangers. He simply doesn't understand what strangers are - we have some people living in our street who are, frankly, a concern. Drunken parties, broken glass in the street, rev-heads doing wheelies burning rubber at 2 am - a worry. difficult child 3 was walking past that house and stopped to talk to them. They asked his name, he told them. He said they were no longer strangers because they knew his name. I've seen difficult child 3 hassled and bullied by kids at school. One kid would regularly torment him and get him into trouble. A gang of boys would trip him up as he walked past. But to avoid getting into trouble when the teacher was called, the boys quickly worked out to say to difficult child 3, "I'm sorry I did that. I want to be your friend now. And friends don't tell on each other, do they?" So difficult child 3 would refuse to tell the teacher who had tripped him. And later the same day - his 'friend' would hurt him again. And then immediately say, "I'm sorry. We're friends, aren't we?" difficult child 3 could never 'get' it. And these kids got a lot of fun at his expense. Similar story with difficult child 1. A lot of his friends are also Aspie, and also very loyal. They are now in their mid-20s, finished school years ago but still very close friends. Always in touch, always visiting each other. Sleepovers when the travelling ones are in town... and all incredibly immature, despite being very smart. They still play dress-ups! Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Asperger's in-person description
Top