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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 676312" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Oh, dear. I am so sorry you had such a hard time. I also have neurological differences and life was hard for me and my entire family abused me, but it made me stronger in the end. Bet you are strong too!!! Fortunately for me, my family of origin is very small and I don't have to see them and have no desire to see them. My family I created is my real family and yours is too. Why deal with abusive people who have no understanding of people who are born a little differently? Gets me mad, but is also sad for them. If they ever have a child or grandchild who is different, they will never understand and be able to give the proper type of support. And these neurological differences are hereditary.</p><p></p><p>My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son does live on his own, work part time and collect SSI. He does need a little help in life skills and likes to be alone more than in a crowd, but he is getting better with that and his work mates really like him. Fact I never heard anyone say a negative word about him. I have guardianship over him, but I may drop it as he does his own chores, laundry, cleaning, getting from place to place and work, etc. He does need a payee, which he is very agreeable to because he knows he has impulse control problems and would spend all his money at once if it is not given to him when needed.He pays all his own bills and is really not financially dependent on us at all. (Well, he has enough money for his bills and I pay his bills for him out of his payee account).</p><p></p><p>It is possible your son can have more independence than you are worried about. We were told ours would never be more than a vegetable and never have independence of any kind. I thought "Baloney!"I could see intelligence and alertness in his eyes, even before he could talk and he did not speak until about four and a half and it seemed like it happened overnight.</p><p></p><p>He is not brilliant, but is no dummy either. He made a lot of "friends" at work and by playing sports in a group for other adults with various disabilities. Many, like my son, seem completely "normal," and my son also has a deep compassion for those who are less abled t han he is and is quick to run and be the first one to help if needed. My son doesn't want a roommate and will probably never get married, but he is one happy person. He knows lots of people who likes him, but only has one close friend and they see each other at work and on the weekends.</p><p></p><p>Just sharing my own experience and wishing you good luck with your son. Hugs and lots and lots of good vibes for all of your family!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 676312, member: 1550"] Oh, dear. I am so sorry you had such a hard time. I also have neurological differences and life was hard for me and my entire family abused me, but it made me stronger in the end. Bet you are strong too!!! Fortunately for me, my family of origin is very small and I don't have to see them and have no desire to see them. My family I created is my real family and yours is too. Why deal with abusive people who have no understanding of people who are born a little differently? Gets me mad, but is also sad for them. If they ever have a child or grandchild who is different, they will never understand and be able to give the proper type of support. And these neurological differences are hereditary. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son does live on his own, work part time and collect SSI. He does need a little help in life skills and likes to be alone more than in a crowd, but he is getting better with that and his work mates really like him. Fact I never heard anyone say a negative word about him. I have guardianship over him, but I may drop it as he does his own chores, laundry, cleaning, getting from place to place and work, etc. He does need a payee, which he is very agreeable to because he knows he has impulse control problems and would spend all his money at once if it is not given to him when needed.He pays all his own bills and is really not financially dependent on us at all. (Well, he has enough money for his bills and I pay his bills for him out of his payee account). It is possible your son can have more independence than you are worried about. We were told ours would never be more than a vegetable and never have independence of any kind. I thought "Baloney!"I could see intelligence and alertness in his eyes, even before he could talk and he did not speak until about four and a half and it seemed like it happened overnight. He is not brilliant, but is no dummy either. He made a lot of "friends" at work and by playing sports in a group for other adults with various disabilities. Many, like my son, seem completely "normal," and my son also has a deep compassion for those who are less abled t han he is and is quick to run and be the first one to help if needed. My son doesn't want a roommate and will probably never get married, but he is one happy person. He knows lots of people who likes him, but only has one close friend and they see each other at work and on the weekends. Just sharing my own experience and wishing you good luck with your son. Hugs and lots and lots of good vibes for all of your family!!! [/QUOTE]
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